SL&AM
Cheer Parent
- May 13, 2014
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I debated whether to post this in the general forum or the parent forum, but I figure this gives me the best access to coaches. And I apologize, it's not entirely all-star related, but it is cheer related.
While older is on a cheer moratorium, my younger daughter is still cheering. She is going to spend this summer on the local rec team and has asked about doing a half-season team when it's over. She really loves cheer and is at a perfect age for it to still kinda be low key stress. She's 7, so she's a Mighty-Mighty and Mini.
While she is a bright, funny and loving little girl she also has high functioning Autism (Asperger's if it still existed). She is moderately quirky, is a huge internal thinker, but with a massive amount of intervention in and out of school since she was 3; the average person who meets her would never know. Her major issue used to be social, but she's developed mostly appropriate coping mechanisms to get through most situations. She's still 7 though and is prone to meltdowns and fits of whining. Perhaps a little stronger than her peers, but the frequency isn't there anymore.
When we moved to Florida she went straight to a special need dance team after being removed from a dance class because she couldn't cope. She was 4, turning 5 the next month. She did that for one year before moving to a Tiny 1 cheerleader; she had her moments, but so did all of the kids and I wouldn't necessarily say she was any better or any worse than the rest of the other kids.
We have a meet and greet with her new coaches soon and while I'm used to meeting new teachers and having to info dump a mountain of information, I'm not sure I want to do that to her coaches. I'm considering letting her just be her and seeing how that goes instead. When she did dance she was pegged as SN and when she switched they already knew everything so that label was there and I'm not sure it was to her service. Our expectations for her are they she have a successful and independent life in adulthood, graduate from high school with a standard diploma...etc, and I fear she's getting to an age where she'll play the system if she thinks she can get away with more just because she has a label. I've watched adults, in her school setting, bend to her will and that is literally the last thing we want---in school or in sports. If you were me, what would you do?
Thoughts or experiences? Feel free to PM me if you'd rather not share openly.
While older is on a cheer moratorium, my younger daughter is still cheering. She is going to spend this summer on the local rec team and has asked about doing a half-season team when it's over. She really loves cheer and is at a perfect age for it to still kinda be low key stress. She's 7, so she's a Mighty-Mighty and Mini.
While she is a bright, funny and loving little girl she also has high functioning Autism (Asperger's if it still existed). She is moderately quirky, is a huge internal thinker, but with a massive amount of intervention in and out of school since she was 3; the average person who meets her would never know. Her major issue used to be social, but she's developed mostly appropriate coping mechanisms to get through most situations. She's still 7 though and is prone to meltdowns and fits of whining. Perhaps a little stronger than her peers, but the frequency isn't there anymore.
When we moved to Florida she went straight to a special need dance team after being removed from a dance class because she couldn't cope. She was 4, turning 5 the next month. She did that for one year before moving to a Tiny 1 cheerleader; she had her moments, but so did all of the kids and I wouldn't necessarily say she was any better or any worse than the rest of the other kids.
We have a meet and greet with her new coaches soon and while I'm used to meeting new teachers and having to info dump a mountain of information, I'm not sure I want to do that to her coaches. I'm considering letting her just be her and seeing how that goes instead. When she did dance she was pegged as SN and when she switched they already knew everything so that label was there and I'm not sure it was to her service. Our expectations for her are they she have a successful and independent life in adulthood, graduate from high school with a standard diploma...etc, and I fear she's getting to an age where she'll play the system if she thinks she can get away with more just because she has a label. I've watched adults, in her school setting, bend to her will and that is literally the last thing we want---in school or in sports. If you were me, what would you do?
Thoughts or experiences? Feel free to PM me if you'd rather not share openly.