MomOf2ThatsMe
Cheer Parent
- Feb 18, 2011
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So, CP has an interesting sort of problem. It all started about a year ago. We were due to move into a new neighborhood. One of the girls in CP's class, let's call her Jenny, lives there as well. So of course she is all excited since we lived in the country, and now she would have friends to play with. Well, there is another girl the same age in the neighborhood, "Annie". Annie doesn't go to the same school as CP and Jenny, but cheers at the same gym (different team) as CP. Annie will be going to the same school as CP and Jenny the next school year though. Jenny tells CP one day at school that Annie has been talking about her. CP gets excited because Annie is talking about her. This is how naive and sheltered CP is that she thinks Jenny was trying to tell her Annie was saying nice things about her. I know that Annie wouldn't have even been talking about her regardless because her and CP had NO idea who the other one was. They didn't meet until after we moved in. Anyway, so that is my first inkling that there is going to be trouble because I have one kid making stuff up and we haven't even moved in yet. We move in, everything is ok for about a week. I find out Jenny is causing a lot of trouble at school for CP, making stuff up, talking about her to other children, and just blatantly embarassing her. The gym has tryouts shortly thereafter, and CP and Annie get placed on the same team for this season. However, on the first night of practice I see Annie and Jenny on the trampoline in Annie's yard, and I holler over that she has practice and needs to get to the gym. Jenny yells back that Annie isn't going to cheer because she wants to spend more time with *her*. It is becoming increasingly obvious to me that there are major problems here. Over the summer there would be lots of not including CP, or if Annie was at our house, Jenny would come over and tell Annie that her dad wants her and they would run to her house to play. Childish stuff. I had to tell CP that only one kid was allowed over at a time- not both. And this is where it gets interesting.... so at the end of summer Jenny tells me her mom is signing her up for a half year team at the gym. I think "hey, great, let me tell her mom who is selling their used uni so she doesn' t have to pay full price!". Call mom, and she says no way! Jenny wants to do it, but with her four year old brother and disabled 2 year old sister it just isn't possible. No problem. So, now Jenny isn't going to do it. NBD. Long story short Annie gets brought back to CP's team and now Jenny is in full-force mean mode towards CP. I do feel bad for the kid because she really, really wants to join the gym, but her parents can't let her. I went to CP's school the other day and Jenny was wearing one of our gym's blinged out stretchy headbands. Now though, she is driving a wedge not just between Annie & CP, but between CP and her teammates that they go to school with. I just don't know what to tell her. CP is too meek to confront anybody, and I certainly can't tell her how *I* would handle the situation. I feel like I can only offer up PC lame solutions. I completely get that Jenny and Annie have been friends since they were in diapers, and CP understands that too. She is just really getting upset that she is becoming the target here and hasn't done anything. She is NOT the vindictive, catty type at all. She doesn't talk badly about people, tries to find the good in them, etc. One night she did say to me "mommy, I just don't understand it. I think, I'm just going to have to start being mean back". Of course I told her that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar, yada yada yada. To be honest this kid is infiltrating my daughter's life and one of my biggest fears is that her parents relent and let her join the gym. I think my CP would die a little inside if she had to deal with this kid constantly rubbing stuff in her face like inviting half the team for sleepovers, but not CP (this kid is that type...). What would you all do?
