All-Star What Type Of Coach Do You Like?

[cheerlyssa1230]

Everyone has their own style of coaching and every athletes loves a certain type of coach! Are you someone who likes a coach that is all buisness all the time? Or do you like a coach that is all fun and always gives positive feedback? There are also coaches that love getting attached to the athletes and there are coaches who like to keep their distance! Which one are you? Which do you prefer? There are tons of different coaching styles.... Let me know what you like or how you coach and why!! :) <3

 

[TheVipersMom]

My daughter personally does better for male coaches. She has had coaches that are female that are tough and strict and had coaches that are females and are all unicorns and rainbows.
Either way I personally think she will push her self more for a male coach ... Maybe she is scared of them haha idk?

She doesn't really need positive feedback all the time but she does get very attached to the ones she does the best for. You can call her out or tell her how bad or wrong something is but if she knows how much they like her she uses that to push herself and doesn't get her feelings hurt. If you (the coach) are stand off ish my daughter would want nothing to do with you.

She likes hugs, and taking pictures, and when they call her nice name like sweet heart, and girlfriend or when they tell her she is so cute. (she is 7)

I thought it was just one of her first male coaches she had that she had a crush on was why she did better for him. Then I realized her next coach who was very flamboyant and would even put on girls cheer uniforms and tumble with her she liked him a lot because he was very approachable and sweet and strict. Now we moved and she is already attached to another male coach and will do just about anything to make him happy and she practically dies before we get to the gym of excitement.

The males have all been hard on her but she is very happy and ok with it and tries harder.
The females coaches that are hard on her she lets it bother her and will cry her heart out when going home.
The female coaches who are very positive don't hurt jaylens feelings but she doesn't really try for them

The only coaches male or female that she even remembers or considers a coach that she loves are the ones who were very open and loving to her.

So an approachable and open male coach who is strict is the ideal coach for her.

Now that I'm saying all this I just really realized this could be because the lack of male figure in her life. She sees her dad some but even when she is with him he dumps her at his moms house so she doesn't spend much quality time with her dad. That could be why my daughter loves all these male coaches and she loves when they love her back and she knows that. Ohh gosh i just realized I'm going to be in trouble when she gets older.

So im hoping no female coaches take offense to this as it could be her life situation that causes the attachment and drive when she has male coaches.... Hmm

Thanks for starting this thread I never really thought all this out ...

 

[mariahnicole1216]

My daughter personally does better for male coaches. She has had coaches that are female that are tough and strict and had coaches that are females and are all unicorns and rainbows.
Either way I personally think she will push her self more for a male coach ... Maybe she is scared of them haha idk?

She doesn't really need positive feedback all the time but she does get very attached to the ones she does the best for. You can call her out or tell her how bad or wrong something is but if she knows how much they like her she uses that to push herself and doesn't get her feelings hurt. If you (the coach) are stand off ish my daughter would want nothing to do with you.

She likes hugs, and taking pictures, and when they call her nice name like sweet heart, and girlfriend or when they tell her she is so cute. (she is 7)

I thought it was just one of her first male coaches she had that she had a crush on was why she did better for him. Then I realized her next coach who was very flamboyant and would even put on girls cheer uniforms and tumble with her she liked him a lot because he was very approachable and sweet and strict. Now we moved and she is already attached to another male coach and will do just about anything to make him happy and she practically dies before we get to the gym of excitement.

The males have all been hard on her but she is very happy and ok with it and tries harder.
The females coaches that are hard on her she lets it bother her and will cry her heart out when going home.
The female coaches who are very positive don't hurt jaylens feelings but she doesn't really try for them

The only coaches male or female that she even remembers or considers a coach that she loves are the ones who were very open and loving to her.

So an approachable and open male coach who is strict is the ideal coach for her.

Now that I'm saying all this I just really realized this could be because the lack of male figure in her life. She sees her dad some but even when she is with him he dumps her at his moms house so she doesn't spend much quality time with her dad. That could be why my daughter loves all these male coaches and she loves when they love her back and she knows that. Ohh gosh i just realized I'm going to be in trouble when she gets older.

So im hoping no female coaches take offense to this as it could be her life situation that causes the attachment and drive when she has male coaches.... Hmm

Thanks for starting this thread I never really thought all this out ...

Your daughter is literally the cutest thing in the entire world. If my daughter is half as fierce as her i'll be lucky.

 

[ChoreographyInTheBack]

My daughter personally does better for male coaches. She has had coaches that are female that are tough and strict and had coaches that are females and are all unicorns and rainbows.
Either way I personally think she will push her self more for a male coach ... Maybe she is scared of them haha idk?

She doesn't really need positive feedback all the time but she does get very attached to the ones she does the best for. You can call her out or tell her how bad or wrong something is but if she knows how much they like her she uses that to push herself and doesn't get her feelings hurt. If you (the coach) are stand off ish my daughter would want nothing to do with you.

She likes hugs, and taking pictures, and when they call her nice name like sweet heart, and girlfriend or when they tell her she is so cute. (she is 7)

I thought it was just one of her first male coaches she had that she had a crush on was why she did better for him. Then I realized her next coach who was very flamboyant and would even put on girls cheer uniforms and tumble with her she liked him a lot because he was very approachable and sweet and strict. Now we moved and she is already attached to another male coach and will do just about anything to make him happy and she practically dies before we get to the gym of excitement.

The males have all been hard on her but she is very happy and ok with it and tries harder.
The females coaches that are hard on her she lets it bother her and will cry her heart out when going home.
The female coaches who are very positive don't hurt jaylens feelings but she doesn't really try for them

The only coaches male or female that she even remembers or considers a coach that she loves are the ones who were very open and loving to her.

So an approachable and open male coach who is strict is the ideal coach for her.

Now that I'm saying all this I just really realized this could be because the lack of male figure in her life. She sees her dad some but even when she is with him he dumps her at his moms house so she doesn't spend much quality time with her dad. That could be why my daughter loves all these male coaches and she loves when they love her back and she knows that. Ohh gosh i just realized I'm going to be in trouble when she gets older.

So im hoping no female coaches take offense to this as it could be her life situation that causes the attachment and drive when she has male coaches.... Hmm

Thanks for starting this thread I never really thought all this out ...

That's exactly how I am. My favorite coach loves me, and he's been coaching my private for years. And I work hard because I want to make him proud. If you're standoff ish, I shut down and won't do anything. I won't do anything for coaches who just want to chat, or aren't strict whatsoever. And I don't like female coaches usually. I will still cry at home when the mean ones yell at me. Not a clue why :rolleyes:

 

[TheVipersMom]

Your daughter is literally the cutest thing in the entire world. If my daughter is half as fierce as her i'll be lucky.

Haha thank you very much! She is a mess! & I'm sure your daughter will be super fierce so you have nothing to worry about!

 

[TheVipersMom]

That's exactly how I am. My favorite coach loves me, and he's been coaching my private for years. And I work hard because I want to make him proud. If you're standoff ish, I shut down and won't do anything. I won't do anything for coaches who just want to chat, or aren't strict whatsoever. And I don't like female coaches usually. I will still cry at home when the mean ones yell at me. Not a clue why :rolleyes:

Haha you really are my daughter!:) you and her are just alike. Lol

 

[ChoreographyInTheBack]

Haha you really are my daughter!:) you and her are just alike. Lol

Yes she and I are so alike because we're sisters :) Fiercest. Sister. Ever.

 

[retiredl5cheer]

She doesn't really need positive feedback all the time but she does get very attached to the ones she does the best for. You can call her out or tell her how bad or wrong something is but if she knows how much they like her she uses that to push herself and doesn't get her feelings hurt. If you (the coach) are stand off ish my daughter would want nothing to do with you.

This is the exact coach I try to be. I find that the mini and youth aged kids will do anything for you if you show you care. This method works for some of the juniors and seniors too, depending on their personalities. Actually, it even works for me. I'm a college senior and I still perform better and work harder for one of my coaches than for the other because that one coach shows me he believes in me and wants me to excel. Kids and adults alike excel in environments where someone believes in them and loves them.

ETA: I am not sugary sweet to my kids though. I like to think there's a good balance. I hope I'm correct!

 

[cheerlyssa1230]

I think one reason girls love male coaches is becasue they are different! Girls know how girls think and they know girls are mean! So when a male comes along it is something different ... A new way of learning! Also, guys join cheerleaing and tunbling bc they love the sport and are passionate about it! Therefore, ive noticed with my male coaches, they show more enthusiasm , they have more fun, and they make you feel more confortable!

 

[TheVipersMom]

This is the exact coach I try to be. I find that the mini and youth aged kids will do anything for you if you show you care. This method works for some of the juniors and seniors too, depending on their personalities. Actually, it even works for me. I'm a college senior and I still perform better and work harder for one of my coaches than for the other because that one coach shows me he believes in me and wants me to excel. Kids and adults alike excel in environments where someone believes in them and loves them.

ETA: I am not sugary sweet to my kids though. I like to think there's a good balance. I hope I'm correct!

Well it sounds like your a great coach.:) I think most kids like coaches who are open and someone who shows they care. Yes the younger kids seem to feed off that but I think even the older kids appreciate it even if some of them don't show it! If I was a coach I would hopefully be able to find the happy medium between the two.

 

[drewpate]

The coach that was kind but strict during practice, ran a tight ship, and didn't let anything negatively effect their teams. They might be hardcore and days that you already tired you dread practice, but when you get there you see the enthusiasm On their face and it just lifts you. They never tear you down but they are critical and won't let you give up no matter what.
Outside of practice their classes are probably the most fun, they are the nicest, sweetest, most hard working coaches. When they relax at the gym or competitions you really see the love they have for the sport and the children.
These are usually the ones that children would do anything for, no matter how hard or grueling, because they know that their best interests are in the coach's heart.

 

[Num1Stunta]

The coach that was kind but strict during practice, ran a tight ship, and didn't let anything negatively effect their teams. They might be hardcore and days that you already tired you dread practice, but when you get there you see the enthusiasm On their face and it just lifts you. They never tear you down but they are critical and won't let you give up no matter what.
Outside of practice their classes are probably the most fun, they are the nicest, sweetest, most hard working coaches. When they relax at the gym or competitions you really see the love they have for the sport and the children.
These are usually the ones that children would do anything for, no matter how hard or grueling, because they know that their best interests are in the coach's heart.

I feel like that's who I strive to be, as a coach. Very well put!! :)

 

[kaliangel01]

My daughter needs a strict coach but very loving and uplifting at the sametime. She has had the same coach for both years she has cheered. On tht tinys she was all about fun and she loved her. Once she moved to the mini's she was stricter but so enthusiastic but always motivated her. She also does privates with her and my daughter loves her and so she works harder for her and she knows what my daughter is capable of and wont let her get away with anything less than her best. An example where her coach had my daughter with a kool aid smile was at the last competition my daughter I did all her stunts perfect and we were walking to the away. She ran up to her and said you did those perfect, I told you you could do it, I am so proud of you.

 

[12mowerd]

This is funny that a thread like this would come up when I'm going through a very tough situation with coaches right now.

I personally love a coach that will push you to your limits, but make you do what you need to do. I don't like a coach that has to hold your hand through everything. Someone that will make me make decisions and have confidence with them. I want them to push and be tough and not be afraid to be the bad guy, but since I am a girl and girls need loving, they should be there for you off the mats.

(This is no offense to anyone) I can not stand male coaches. Maybe it is just the ones that I have dealt with in my life but some men do not know how to coach girls. There is a certain extent where you should push your girls, but men need to realize that girls are not boys.

For example, my softball coach right now. I've never despised a man so much in my life. He's a complete pervert towards some girls, and he acts like we're a baseball team. He doesn't know anything about coaching. (you all would be appalled by his warm ups and drills.) As a male coach I believe that you have to show that you care about your athletes for them to play for you. That goes for female coaches as well.

"They don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care."

 

[allstarmom#1]

This is funny that a thread like this would come up when I'm going through a very tough situation with coaches right now.

I personally love a coach that will push you to your limits, but make you do what you need to do. I don't like a coach that has to hold your hand through everything. Someone that will make me make decisions and have confidence with them. I want them to push and be tough and not be afraid to be the bad guy, but since I am a girl and girls need loving, they should be there for you off the mats.

(This is no offense to anyone) I can not stand male coaches. Maybe it is just the ones that I have dealt with in my life but some men do not know how to coach girls. There is a certain extent where you should push your girls, but men need to realize that girls are not boys.

For example, my softball coach right now. I've never despised a man so much in my life. He's a complete pervert towards some girls, and he acts like we're a baseball team. He doesn't know anything about coaching. (you all would be appalled by his warm ups and drills.) As a male coach I believe that you have to show that you care about your athletes for them to play for you. That goes for female coaches as well.

"They don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care."

Love this. My new motto:-)