....Well 45 pages later and my brain has exploded. This is what I get for taking a backseat on the 'board to focus on my stuff.
@Eyes On The Prize and
@CheerBank I waited 45 pages to quote In the Heights: 'My mom is Dominican/Cuban my dad is from Chile and PR which means, I'm ChileDominCuRican...but I always say I'm from Queens!' #lonelyplanetNUMBAH1
This just seems..messy. On one hand I appreciate wanting to stick out commitments and teach integrity and all that jazz. I also want to caution the lesson that you stick it out when people are hurting/disrespecting you (and it's not always physically), because the mentality of 'If I just hang in there, it'll change get better' is a rough pill to swallow when you realize you're tolerating someone's disrespect repeatedly. Because you're a 'good person'. Not fun to have to patch up those holes later.
At the job I currently have, I have been handed business cards/email adds/numbers to call about switching restaurants. Constantly. People are trying to recruit me for their business. It doesn't make me a bad person to look/consider other options and plan ahead (which some people consider smart!). Is there a risk? Sure. But part of being a smart adult is learning how to A- Minimize risk and B- Deal with it when it comes calling. She did both and it actually worked out better than planned: she still has teams to coach and they still get to finish out their season with someone they love. ICE no longer has a coach looking to jump ship at the end. Problem solved.
I sincerely doubt she's been secretly prepping her teams to move for ages- teenage girls can't keep secrets for more than 2 minutes. How could they have kept this secret that long? Sometimes when you're unhappy, it takes one person making a stand to realize you don't have to settle. Also- to have her go to CEA and spend time there working with them? That's in NC, she's in Illinois. Not sure what her savings are like (not my chair, not my problem), but packing up and leaving a city to spend months 'learning' with them might not be fiscally feasible right now. Moving is hella expensive.
It would have been 'polite' for her to wait nicely til the end of the season for her to open up the new gym despite being fired, but politeness don't pay the bills. Politeness is for tea time on a Southern villa. Call me cold, but this time last week I was 36" deep in snow with a landlord who doesn't know the business end of a shovel. You gotta do what you gotta do.
ETA:
@samantha says - HEY GIRL.