Try and work with the High School coach from the get go to see what can be compromised.
Your daughter will have to prioritize and negotiate. This also goes for allstar teams, should that be something your family is interested in....you will have to work with both coaches hand in hand to make the dual schedules work. Compromise is KEY & it starts even before the tryout meetings. Communicate often and let your schedule be clear to all FAR in advance to avoid last minute conflicts.
Remember:
-Many of the kids competing for a college spot are allstar kids. Since you mentioned above that your daughter's HS team does not stunt much (and high schools cannot legally double down from stunts anymore), I would be thinking of how to get her that experience of doing elite skills that may be asked of her at tryouts. For example, as you mentioned Rutgers above:
"There are no set skill requirements to try out for the Rutgers Cheerleading Teams.
However, the current All Girl team can do
full ups, double down dismounts from multiple body positions, & transition stunts. The current Small Coed team can perform
full ups, tick tocks, & many stunt positions. The Tumbling skill set for both teams includes
standing back tucks, handspring tucks, and round off back handspring tucks. "
What they are really saying is : We can't require any specific skills, but the people that make the team typically have these skills MINIMUM.
As you can see, that is pretty true :
Rutgers All Girl Send-off 2013 - YouTube
So overall, I would say:
-Get your child into stunting privates at a reputable cheer gym
(coed stunting + working on elite skills (full up, tick tocs, double downs, etc.))
-Get her into 1-2 years of Allstar cheer if possible to really polish those skills (taking it to the next level per say)
-Make sure her standing tuck is solid & be working those roundoff BHS tucks/layouts/fulls with good technique
-Understand that sideline is important as well (colleges like to see that you have that experience, strong motion technique, etc.), but on a whole, the skills are not on the same level as allstar cheer. You WILL be fighting against allstar kids for a college spot and it is up to you to hang skill wise, whether that be through private lessons or allstar experience or both :shaka:.