CheerMomNTx
Cheer Parent
- Dec 14, 2009
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Well people are free to test the waters but remember, you don't want to burn bridges. With so many competitive gyms out there, the word loyalty no longer exisit.
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Well people are free to test the waters but remember, you don't want to burn bridges. With so many competitive gyms out there, the word loyalty no longer exisit.
But not all coaches/gym owners think like you.
If you LOVE that child, you won't be mad. You'll be happy for them that they're going to be able to even further advance their skills!
I have noticed in the past that MOST of the kids/parents who leave for another gym mid season are ones that cause issues anyways, and its just less stressful for all if they leave. The ones who leave after the season, I can honestly say it doesn't make me mad. Sad sometimes, yes. I love them like my own and it's like a child moving out when they leave...
But I've had kids move onto bigger gyms with worlds teams, university's to cheer at, JAMZ staff, UCA staff, etc and I never feel mad. Isn't that like the same thing as leaving for another gym? They're moving on to another cheer experience that will broaden their horizon. If you LOVE that child, you won't be mad. You'll be happy for them that they're going to be able to even further advance their skills!
And typically, when they move on to another gym, they don't forget where they came from. And when they finally get that big win, you can feel like you had a part in that.. It's a super tough line and sometimes hard not to take it personally, but its so much better for everyone if we're all just gracious about it :)
Ashley
Having only just completed our first year in the all star cheer arena, how common is it that a child would move to another gym after the season has already started? I find that mind boggling that someone would do that? I know we had one girl on our team that wanted to quit for this or that reason about 3/4th of the way through but she stuck it out and I respected her and her parents for honoring her commitment to the team.
I wouldn't say it's SUPER common, but it happens. Sometimes people can't pay their bills so they disappear. Sometimes they just don't wanna do it anymore.
We had a set of Tiny's this year that just didn't show up to comp and when we called and called, they ignored us. Then 4 weeks later had the audacity to ask if I'd buy back her uniforms. Needless to say my 3-5 year olds had to relearn their routine backstage.
It's a sad reality, but people do leave mid season. It's terrible. We have a contract in place, so when they leave they pay out their tuition for the year, but they still go. And then I am usually forced to send them to collections.
Like I said, it's NOT common. But it happens. And if you have NO contract, it will happen A LOT more often.
Ashley
I wish more parents would instill this in their children. I have told my kids the same thing. You start something, you finish it. You want to go a different gym this season, you stay there all season.Wow. I've always taught my kids, no matter which sport they're participating in, you will always honor your commitment to the team. I never threatened to keep them home from a game as a punishment - and I know some parents do that. I'm not holding myself out as some parent saint - because sometimes I suck at it LOL - but parents need to finish what they started and that goes for their child too. (Sorry, pet peeve)
I agree whole-heatedly with finishing what you start and we teach our CP the same value. We have watched over the years folks come and go in the middle of a season, 2 days before a comp for various reasons, etc.
Our decision to try a another gym was done with the utmost respect. I didn't go around talking about our decision during the season at anytime. We finished the season, right. I'm guessing this is why it came as such a huge shock to some who had no idea until the end of summer.
Fast Fwd to last comp with new gym and CP was excited she would be able to see coaches/teams/kids from old gym. She got the surprise of her life, they treated her like crap, wouldn't speak to her and called her names. It hurt her feelings so much she had no idea she would be treated that way. There ignorance just created another teachable moment for us.
No loyalty in cheer or any sport for that matter.