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Y’all see where the gymnastics coach was arrested? He has ties to nessar
Aaand he killed himself.
Former U.S. gymnastics coach dies by suicide after arrest for alleged sex crimes in Michigan
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Y’all see where the gymnastics coach was arrested? He has ties to nessar
Yikes! I will repeat: This generation uses social media to speak their truth. Love it or hate it its their medium of choice. Some of those kids are receiving compassion there as well.
People always doubt kids when they recollect abuse and it amazes me. They blame the victims who were children at the time these things were happening. How can there be any ambiquity about child molestation, attempted rape, or rampant drug use? Where is the middle truth? "I copped the coke my coach snorted?" "She was (sexy, asking for it, wearing Nike pros) so the coach invited her to his room?" How does that work?
The bottom line is coaches shouldn't throw chairs at kids, they should not call kids "stupid", they shouldn't grab kids, groom 13yo for future sexual relationships, sleep w/kids parents, sleep w/their athletes, grope kids or encourage them to use illegal substances. Those are toxic behaviors and lead to mental illness. Saying someone develops an eating disorder because the are a perfectionist & not because an adult they loved demanded perfection, is splitting hairs. People on these boards have been derided for saying some of the things those young people alleged. Is their truth somewhere in the middle?
How sure are u that these things are complete semi-falsehoods created by easily insulted kids?
Would you bet your minor child on it?
It's absolutely possible, I am witnessing it happen in our current gym right now. Going on 4 seasons, multiple coaches... there has never been one time I felt like the coaching went too far. Has there been yelling? Of course.... that's not a big deal.
It's when the yelling goes into what a piece of $hit you are personally vs why you messed up your stunt for the 80th time, that the line is crossed.
Oh, and as for success- she's won I think 2 Summit rings, 2 NCA titles, Champions League and a bronze medal from Worlds. So plenty of success without having to sacrifice mental health.
The line between tough coaching and abuse is very clear. Raising your voice is not abuse. Being tough with a kid is not abuse. Frustration is not abuse. Personally insulting kids or intentionally humiliating them IS abuse. It's really very simple.
Who still anytime there is cheer drama takes to Twitter. We are at another location but I have seen first hand the lies that parents spread when they feel their kid didn’t get what they deserve. Not that I’m saying it didn’t happen because maybe it did. But from my experience the main source of drama is parents. The coaching isn’t harsh but once you get to the worlds teams it is cut throat, your spot can be taken at any time. And when this happens parents react in the craziest ways. My main complaint I’ve had about CEA is I’ve never seen more self entitled people in my life. This season kids who didn’t get placed where they wanted left the gym and went to a local gym that put them where the parents felt they belonged. Entitled parents create entitled children. Which causes ridiculous behavior. In all actuality she didn’t bring back 2 coaches this season she had took on from a gym closure because she felt the coaching was too harsh. But none of this is about kernersville, just Raleigh.
This was brought to my attention by another parent, so I’m going to address it - and in the process, out myself to many who are actually familiar with the situation at CEA Raleigh. I am one of those “entitled” parents who pulled their child. To call all the parents and kids who left the gym entitled is pretty amusing. Most were following the coach who was let go, and many others stopped cheering at all (over half of my daughter’s team from last year left the gym). I would say that in my time at CEA I witnessed a crazy level of entitlement from parents who are still there, tbh.
I’ll tell you exactly why my daughter’s at a different gym (where she’s thriving and incredibly happy).
We found out during the tryout process that “her coach” - the one CP had most bonded with - the one she had virtual privates with during quarantine - had been let go from CEA Raleigh. The owner pulled me into the gym while my child was tumbling to (I assume) do damage control. My kid had been at this gym for 2 years, I was a team mom this past year - and this was the second time that the owner had ever spoken to me in a conversation. (The first time was when CP decided that she wanted to try All Star and the owner told us how glad she was, because she [my child] was “so pretty, and we can’t teach pretty” ). During this second ever conversation, she went through some of her thought process of why she had let said coach go. What stood out to me once I had time to process: the coach had the girls wear buns and leggings, the coach wanted kids to crossover, it was ultimately a financial decision (which is the only one of these reasons that I can totally respect), that the lower level program was good - and therefore, she didn’t ‘need’ said coach anymore (but she was happy to give her information to her sister, b/c they DID need that lower level improvement), and finally, that CEA Raleigh is a “Worlds Gym”. At the time, I told her that it was her business, so she got to decide how that business is run, and that we wouldn’t be going anywhere - which, it turns out was not true, but once I had time to think about what had been said, I realized that I’d possibly lied to her.
After I broke the news to my CP, she cried. A lot. I acknowledge - former coach pushes the kids and is tough. But that’s the kind of coaching my CP prefers. She was also (out of all the coaches in the gym) one of like 3 or 4 coaches who prioritized lower level teams and really cared about how those teams did.
I had to drop something off from last season to former coach at her new gym, so CP went along and ended up tumbling with her. She came out so happy - at that point, I was pretty sure she’d be following. The night she had a panic attack before practice at CEA was the night I KNEW she’d be following. I pay money for this. It’s supposed to be fun for my kid. She was not having fun.
Here’s the thing. My CP started AS at 11 years old. Worlds is not her goal. She wants to be on teams that are her appropriate level and are competitive. She wants to be on teams that are well thought out and not just a dumping ground for whomever is left. She wants to be on teams that matter to the gym. She wants to win on whatever level team she’s on.
I stand behind what I said to CEA’s owner. It IS her business. She does get to make the decisions. But in the end, I’m her customer. I’m the one paying the bills. I get to decide where I spend my money. Ultimately - it wasn’t a good fit for my child and we decided to follow to the new gym. I wish CEA Raleigh nothing but the best. We’ve cheered for teams from the gym with athletes and coaches with whom we have relationships and we will continue to do so.
I’ve kept this to my family’s experiences (there are more, but these are most of the major reasons CP is somewhere else).
In the meantime, the implication that the new gym just caved to parental pressure is goofy. CP’s team has been incredibly successful this year and has done very well - as have all the teams from this gym - I believe they are an up and coming program to watch out for. The gym owners are engaged with every team, and know every kid. The atmosphere is contagious. The support of the entire program for every single team is simply inspiring.
cheer world is getting darker and it makes me very sad
i read on Instagram that CEA is probably not the only one :( Stingrays and California Allstars too. is it true?
while i agree, i feel like in these days sometimes social media works better at providing justice then actually going to the police. Enough people making complaints/accusations/etc on social media tends to get far more attention, then filing a report and then sitting and waiting for the authorities to actually do something. While i dont necessarily agree with only turning to social media to try and get action from people to actually do something, its proven time and time again that sometimes it does work better, then complaining to the source through different means.In the US you can: 1) Report a person, but no further action is taken 2) Report a person, an investigation is done, and no charges are made 3) Report a person, an investigation is made, and the person is charged with a crime 4) A rumor is spread with no actual substantiation, doesn't get reported, and people just say, "you need to watch out for that person"
We don't know what these gym's have and have not done, people are assuming. In the US, employers keep that information private and can be sued if they say something about a person that is unsubstantiated. Unfortunately, what often happens in the US with predators, is the employer fires them, a report is/isn't made, no further action is taken, and they go elsewhere and get a job.
As far as Ladarius, I will never deny a person their experiences, thoughts, opinions or feelings on something. With that said, Twitter should not be treated as an authority on guilt or innocence, and we should not be assuming, nor acting, as judge, jury or executioner. Hopefully, he has taken his information to the appropriate people/authorities where something can actually be done, and action taken, if true.
while i agree, i feel like in these days sometimes social media works better at providing justice then actually going to the police. Enough people making complaints/accusations/etc on social media tends to get far more attention, then filing a report and then sitting and waiting for the authorities to actually do something. While i dont necessarily agree with only turning to social media to try and get action from people to actually do something, its proven time and time again that sometimes it does work better, then complaining to the source through different means.
As for athletes going to social media to call attention to issues instead of police, not playing devils advocate here, but maybe they have and nothing was done. I've had multiple friends file a case for rape and it honestly just sat there for months without any progress. We have a great legal system in the states-occasionally. Unfortunately we live in an era where people do tend to go to social media with their issues when they feel they aren't being handled correctly by people higher up. The way I saw it is these athletes are posting their experiences to bring awareness so other people don't have to go through what they went through.