All-Star Mom's List For Coaches (spinoff Of Coaches List For Moms)

[Just-a-Mom]

Anyone have any sweet tea?

No. I moved up North. We're tougher. We drink it UNSWEET. :fro:

 

[Mamarazzi]

No. I moved up North. We're tougher. We drink it UNSWEET. :fro:

Oh, so that's why the Southside of Chicago smells like that...I get it now. ;)

 

[cheerfan27]

Do what you say you're going to do and stick to what you say you're not going to do. If you truly evaluated every girl and placed them on the approproiate team don't move her just because she can't get the position she wanted.

 

[cheerfan27]

ALMOST NONE of the above applies to ME/my daughter or the other unpaid coaches in my gym! Wooo Hoooo!
1. we don't eat in front of anyone. It's rude. Anywhere. Anytime.
2. we do all our tumbling for free.
3. none of us get paid.
4. my level 1s, 2s and 3s are treated like ROCK STARS! That is our future!
5. its hard to not have a funky face during bad moments on the mat, but we suck it up and hide it with a fake smile.
6. sometimes the only time we hear about other kids leaving is out in the parent room. After hearing from that family how they will be back. gee, thanks!!!
7. TEAM MEETING ABOUT LACK OF MOTIVATION: um, well here is where we differ. We do everything we can to motivate our teams, but sometimes, we do need help from parents. There may be things going on within a team that we have no idea are happening. You won't believe how much can be said between kids in a practice that we don't even hear! And quite frankly, sometimes your kid is just lazy. Of course, I would never actually say that. But sometimes it is true.

Wow, that's great. I think you are in the minority so of course none of this applies to you.

 

[flcheermom]

I think sometimes parents use the "I pay" line to use as a reason to dictate to coaches/owners how they think the gym should operate. I am a paying parent also - but I see both sides. I think coaches and parents need to have a mutual respect for each other - a successful gym can not operate without that mutual respect. A gym certainly won't be successful without paying customers -and parents need to feel like they are getting what they pay for - that is a fine line. I think the successful gyms/gyms that continue to be successful year after year - or even gyms starting to really grow - know this and have developed a system that benefits coaches and parents alike. I know how much money I spend on cheer - and believe me, I want to feel like I am getting what I paid for also. Unfortunately, thereare gyms out there that are not customer based, and suffer - on the other hand, there are parents out there that think they can "run" the gym because they pay. I pay for alot of services, but I do not tell them how to run their business - I expect they will give me what I pay for - if not then I don't use them again, don't refer anyone to them - etc. I also do think that the amount of time spent at cheer comps, practices,team bondings - make cheerleading different than some other sports, because of the amount of time we spend with our cheer coaches, other cheer moms - so sometimes that can interfere with the "business" side of cheer, because there is such an emotional attachment. I don't have the same amount of "time" - personal attachment with my son's soccer club/team, as I do with my daughter's cheer gym. From a parent's perspective, I can see how that in turn affects the parent's perception (right or wrong) - making sure we are getting what we pay for. I do agree that when paying for a private lesson - the coach needs to be focused on that child/lesson at that time - focused 100%. A parent is specifically paying for a coaches instruction at that time-not just the gym fees, but money strictly going towards a coach to work with a child for the whole amount of time.We don't pay lawn services to run over and work on a neighbors lawn at that time they should be working on ours :) So, as coaches I do hope they understand and respect the job they are being paid to do. Parents and coaches just need to have a mutual respect for one another - and know it takes the parents working with the gym to be successful.

 

[cheerfan27]

Wow! I can only shimmy once but would give you 987,654,980 shimmy's. Also, to expand on #5, when giving tumbling lessons don't talk/ text on your phone. Do get on the mat and be involved in the session. Don't be distracted in conversation with others. If you're a gym owner you should stand back and take a look at your tumbling classes and check your coaches.

I wanted to add that team practice is completely different than tumbling class. The coaches at our gym are on point doing team practice. It's the tumbling that needs to be addressed

 

[ctwings]

OK. drewpate nicely made a list for us moms on how to not be so annoying, so I thought I'd make us a list as well.

5. And on the same token, when i am paying for a private, please stop helping other kids in the gym - I know they're Level 5 and are reeeeeally important, but their moms can pay for privates too if they need help. I'm paying for your undivided attention for an hour. Please give it to my child.

6. Lastly, and I think this is my biggest one. There is more than 1 team in your gym. Level 5 isn't the only one you have. When you have time to SIT in the parent area and talk to Suzy 5's mom for an hour ... it kinda makes me doubt your whole "I'm too busy to talk to you" stance. And it kinda makes my daughter feel bad when you treat your level 5's like they are the only ones that matter. And I know every coach on here says "That's not how we are at our gym - we love all our teams equally," but you are. You may not even realize it, but you ARE. Just like we sometimes don't realize how "Suzie's Mom" we're being...you don't realize how "Suzie's coach" you're being. Every time you start a sentence with "Woot! Senior 5 just did...(insert wonderful thing your level 5 team did here)!" think of a mom saying "I'm not that mom but..." Maybe once a week try to say something about another team? ***And NOT as the end of a Senior 5 praise (eg. "Woot! Senior 5, 2nd place!!! Way to rock it!!!!!...oh and Youth 2 got first. wtg"

Sorry I'm offending probably every coach on here, but we've just spent the last 2 days talking about how annoying we are as moms, I thought I'd give a little back.;)

I am a coach and you did not offend me at all.... I have been coaching for 14 years and I LOVE talking to parents (at my gym and others) to see what coaches do that gets under their skin so I make sure I am not making those same mistakes....so Thank you.....and I soo feel you about #6, I don't coach a 5 team at my gym and as a coach I get tired of hearing "ohhh did you see what they did last night" or " they are going to be the deal...when they hit" but my youth 2 and min 1 team have the hardest competitons sometimes and win and its "oh yea, that's good for them"

 

[Just-a-Mom]

Oh, so that's why the Southside of Chicago smells like that...I get it now. ;)

Nah...I'm not really sure WHAT that's all about. I've only been to the TRUE Southside once (for a competition...:rolleyes: Hey previous gym, way to look at a map before picking comps to go to!) I'm waaaay up North. Smells like pizza.

 

[Mamarazzi]

Smells like pizza.

Chicago-style, no doubt...Mmmmmmmmmmmm...

 

[John Butler]

1. Remember that I'm paying you, not the other way around.

;)

If I could shimmy this 10,000 times, I would.

 

[AZCheerMom]

(I feel this way about everything. Like when I go to mcdonald's and bon qui qui is too busy talking to lashonda)

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I just spit out my coffee!!! My CP does the best Bon Qui Qui impression ever!!

 

[Just-a-Mom]

(I feel this way about everything. Like when I go to mcdonald's and bon qui qui is too busy talking to lashonda)

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I just spit out my coffee!!! My CP does the best Bon Qui Qui impression ever!![/quote]

Oh I don't know...you gotta see my cp's impression. She DOES go to school in a city school in Chicago...so she gets it honestly. And she is the biggest Anjelah Johnson fan on the planet. :D

 

[John Butler]

I've got one more to add, and I know this one is going to throw sparks to the large container of gasoline that is this thread...

-Keep your eyes open to the trouble makers in your gym and deal with them appropriately. Yep, I said it. One bad apple CAN spoil the whole bunch. I hear coaches so often talk about team, team, team, but yet throw a blind eye to blatant bad behavior by certain athletes towards other team members simply because they either don't want to get involved or because the athlete is too valuable skills wise to reprimand. Bad behavior towards other teammates should never be tolerated and should never be ignored. If you're too afraid to reprimand or put forth consequences for the bad behavior, at least let the parent know. I for one will be MORE THAN HAPPY to discipline my child if they are out of line or are causing problems within their team!!!

 

[AZCheerMom]

I just spit out my coffee!!! My CP does the best Bon Qui Qui impression ever!!

Oh I don't know...you gotta see my cp's impression. She DOES go to school in a city school in Chicago...so she gets it honestly. And she is the biggest Anjelah Johnson fan on the planet. :D[/quote]

Haha... Anjelah Johnson is in our daily vocab!!! Love It!!!

 

[AZCheerMom]

I've got one more to add, and I know this one is going to throw sparks to the large container of gasoline that is this thread...

-Keep your eyes open to the trouble makers in your gym and deal with them appropriately. Yep, I said it. One bad apple CAN spoil the whole bunch. I hear coaches so often talk about team, team, team, but yet throw a blind eye to blatant bad behavior by certain athletes towards other team members simply because they either don't want to get involved or because the athlete is too valuable skills wise to reprimand. Bad behavior towards other teammates should never be tolerated and should never be ignored. If you're too afraid to reprimand or put forth consequences for the bad behavior, at least let the parent know. I for one will be MORE THAN HAPPY to discipline my child if they are out of line or are causing problems within their team!!![/quote]

Oh me too!!! All her coaches know I don't tolerate that. If there is ever a problem with her they come right to me and it's taken care of...
Oh and yeah for your status!! So glad for Gabi! :cheering: