I got engaged last Sunday :cloud9:. We are not starting any planning until September, but I'm already so overwhelmed - don't even know where to start! Any tips or tricks for this MA bride to be :help:
Congratulations!! Such an exciting event!!
Planning should be between you and your Fiancé(e). You two need to decide what you want (big, small, private, elope, etc.)
Budget first. What is it. Who is contributing. Don't count on money from others until it is your hands and remember that if people offer to pay for things, they get a say in how their money is spent. Money comes with strings. Better to plan as if you two were paying and any extra cash that comes in is bonus.
Guest list next. How many people, who do you want. Check with your VIP's to see if your plans work with them (for example, if you want an destination wedding, can they afford it, etc.). Invite in circles if you need to keep the list smaller (immediate family, larger family, friends, work colleagues, etc.)
From here, you can start to look for venues, to see if they fall within your budget. Plan for 100% attendance and never over invite based on what your venue states as maximum numbers.
Once you have a venue/date, look to other vendors - food/drink, flowers, music, DJ, etc.
Use your credit card to pay if possible. You get points and insurance protection in case something falls through. Nothing is finalized until you have made a deposit and have a signed contract. Read them before you sign and make sure you understand them. Yes, it's tedious, but worth it.
People will remember being fed well and being comfortable, not your decor/flowers/etc. Make sure you feed everyone appropriately and well and every butt gets a chair at all times. If someone is invited to pre-wedding parties, they must be invited to the wedding and the reception after (work showers being an exception). If you are on a tight budget, there's lots you can do to get around more expensive celebrations. And have fun. It's an awesome day, but it's only 1 day, and the most important part is that you will be marrying the person you love the most on that day. Enjoy the experience and don't sweat the small stuff. You will still be married at the end of it all.