Yes. Comparing the two situations I shared, the legalities are also the issue. My son did nothing illegal, so there weren't any lawyers or police involved. I could have hired a lawyer, I assume, but my kid deserved some punishment and he wasn't going to lose a D1 scholarship or anything. Also, the publicity would have probably been more awful..
A long long time ago, in a galaxy far far away..
My mom used to work for this organization called the Apple Harvest Hosts/Hostesses. My town has an 'Apple Harvest Festival' every year (a local fall festival with yummy food and rides that lasts for 2 weekends). These girls/guys (mostly girls now) were chosen in the spring, and were usually going to be Juniors/Seniors. It was a community service based organization, and it followed from the spring through fall. At the end of everything, there was this big gala at the end and the Apple Harvest Queen was chosen. It was based on involvement, community service, academics, and a variety of other 'good people' factors. You got a crown, a special sash, and a special car to ride in during the parade. They then worked the festival in various capacities (one year they had a face-painting booth). As both my parents were very involved in the festival, these girls were like my super-big-sisters. I've known some of them my entire life- one ended up my volleyball coach.
One night, a big party was busted in town. Two of the hostesses were at the party. I don't believe they were drinking/they were up to any wrong-doing, but they both got in SERIOUS trouble, and I remember my mother up in arms about it. One girl's family was very involved in down, and the other's mom was an elementary school teacher I knew well. One of those girls was set to be chosen as Queen, but she lost the crown because of a stupid mistake. Believe it or not- most of these pictures of these kids at these parties nowadays specifically feature liquor in the background, so it's not like they're smart cookies or there's any ambiguity as to what's happening.
On a slightly related note (speaking of rape instances): When you are accused of rape at a college, you can very easily just transfer. Your old school isn't even under obligation to tell your new school you're involved in any type of disciplinary situation, never mind what you're being investigated for. I read an article about that guy Jesse Matthews who is accused of Hannah Graham's murder- he was accused of sexual assault/violence on several different campuses, and yet not a single campus was aware of the other's disciplinary attempts. There's no necessity in the sharing of that sort of info.
