I'm basing this on your profile pic but, your pony appears to be lying flat against your head. When you put your hair half up/half down try putting your pony a little higher on your head and then use 2-3 nonslip bands on top of each other so they create a "post". Your hair may have a slight "fountain" effect but, when you put the bow on top of the nonslip bands (as close to the base as possible), the hair/bands should help support the bow in an upward position and the bow should correct any fountain effect. Hope that helps, if not, a fabric store employee may be able to suggest something to give it more support.