All-Star What Would You Do....

[momma2mycheerprincess]

My kids did tryouts and were paced on teams at the gym that we cheered at last year. Kids were fine with everything, but I had some concerns. I brought this up to the gym owner, and her response was very disturbing. At this point I'm torn...I don't want my girls there anymore, but they don't want to leave. My opinion is that at this point, even if they go back and fix the issue, what was said was so disturbing, I have lost all respect for this gym owner and do not trust any decisions made by the gym. Also hearing what is said about other children who chose to go to other gyms by the owner is alarming as well. I wish I could give more details on it, but I dont want to put anyone "out there". If someone could give me their opinion I would appriciate it greatly....even a PM is fine....thanks!!!

 

[mdcheerdiva]

Take your kids to another gym!

 

[NJ Coach]

Feel free to PM me. Without knowing specifics, it's hard to say what I would do. You said your kids were happy, but her response to your concerns were disturbing. Are your concerns specific to teams or something bigger? Tryouts are stressful on coaches/owners. Making sure you create teams to be successful and knowing you are going to get complaints because kids didn't make the team they wanted keeps us up late at night.

 

[ztaprincess]

If you can't feel comfortable in a gym then as a parent you should be able to take them somewhere else. If it were me and an owner told me something that left me feeling that uneasy I would find a new gym. If I am paying them and trusting them with my children then I would need to be 100% comfortable in the enviroment.

 

[JumpingJackFlash]

If your kids are happy and you can handle the "issue" without it harming them in anyway, you may want to hang. But it sounds like your in for a rough season and it hasn't really started yet. Without knowing the facts, its seems as if you have a huge red flag being waived at you. You may want to listen to your gut instinct and run! Your kids may not be happy about your decision, but they will get through it and thrive at a more appropriate gym for them

 

[Born2Tumble]

I sent you a PM!

 

[dawgshow]

Honestly it depends on the issues and whether you have FIRST hand knowledge of them or if you heard it through the grapevine--even a "reliable" source.
I know that unless my CP's safety was the issue, I'd stick it out at her gym if she was very happy there.

 

[brebrid]

RUN.... Ok, on a serious note, when your kids love where they are, its so very hard to remove them from their comfort zone, especially with friendships formed etc., however, you as the parent have to make the best overall decision for their growth and well being in this sport because children aren't able to. No place is perfect and you must choose your battles carefully, but if this will negatively impact their self esteem, safety, please start researching additional options in your area. PM me if needed.

 

[12stepCheermom]

My kids did tryouts and were paced on teams at the gym that we cheered at last year. Kids were fine with everything, but I had some concerns. I brought this up to the gym owner, and her response was very disturbing. At this point I'm torn...I don't want my girls there anymore, but they don't want to leave. My opinion is that at this point, even if they go back and fix the issue, what was said was so disturbing, I have lost all respect for this gym owner and do not trust any decisions made by the gym. Also hearing what is said about other children who chose to go to other gyms by the owner is alarming as well. I wish I could give more details on it, but I dont want to put anyone "out there". If someone could give me their opinion I would appriciate it greatly....even a PM is fine....thanks!!!

Girl...go back and read what you wrote. You already made your decision, you're just needing some support in carrying it out. I got your back! Run for the hills. Don't leave your kids with someone who makes you uncomfortable. If whatever they said or did that has you worried comes true later on...consider that! It's better to feel a little guilty with your kids now than a LOT guilty with them later when what you now suspect might actually happen.

Being a mom can suck. It's hard. But you already know what to do and if it's bothering you enough to put it up here...you already decided.

Go with your gut! I got your back ;)

 

[idrive]

Been there done that, got the t-shirt. My wife and I did the same thing with our kids. They balled for a short time and after a year we asked them if they missed the old gym and their immediate respose was no. You MUST do what is best for your kids even when it may mean making them upset at you.

 

[momma2mycheerprincess]

Thank you to everyone! I think 12stepCheermom was right....I just needed some reassurance. Looks like we are in for another round of try outs....like it wasn't stressful enough the first time lol!!!

 

[mom24girls]

I'd leave if I was feeling uneasy about the gym. I know your kids are happy but a lot of times their friendships are the reason they don't want to leave. It's up to us to consider the other more important stuff. They will make new friends.

 

[12stepCheermom]

Thank you to everyone! I think 12stepCheermom was right....I just needed some reassurance. Looks like we are in for another round of try outs....like it wasn't stressful enough the first time lol!!!

HAHAHAHA! Here ye here ye peeps....I was right! Someone even wrote it on the wall! Tell my husband that too! Yay me!

 

[Cici B]

I see it as if the person says something disturbing to you disturbing things probably happen or are said in the gym. So I would get out as soon as possible. And usually when people want to leave and stay they end up leaving at a later date so do it now where it can be a smooth transition, as the season is just starting.