All-Star Conflicts With Teammates

[Battle Bows]

I have been cheering for almost 2 years now, and have been aware my entire life that not everyone will get along and work together. I have had this problem a lot recently, specifically with a teammate in my senior division stunt group. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can approach the situation with my stunt group as a whole (instead of singling out people, which isn't both kind or fair) to try to work together versus individually and not play the blame game?

If anyone can give any tips, let me know! I just HATE having altercations with people and especially in a case where working together (like being responsible for keeping a person in the air!) is an issue.

Thanks!
:)

 

[KTucker]

Just approach it in a way that's not defensive, but with genuine concern. I've had to do this before and instead of growing into the blame game, it grew into a calm discussion and we got all the kinks worked out. I wouldn't do it in the middle of practice, but maybe before or after. Just maybe start with saying that you've noticed your stunt is having some issues, and ask if there's anything you can personally do to improve it. I've learned that putting yourself out there like that makes others feel comfortable to do the same.

 

[AllstarObsession]

Usually, when I'm talking to my parents, friends, boyfriend, teammates, about something that could potentially cause conflict, I make sure to use "I" statements only.

For example, dont say, "you arent throwing hard enough", say, "I feel like I need more help with this, can you try and throw a little bit more?"

If you state it with your feelings, it avoids putting the other person on the defensive.

 

[kristenthegreat]

Usually, when I'm talking to my parents, friends, boyfriend, teammates, about something that could potentially cause conflict, I make sure to use "I" statements only.

For example, dont say, "you arent throwing hard enough", say, "I feel like I need more help with this, can you try and throw a little bit more?"

If you state it with your feelings, it avoids putting the other person on the defensive.

This. x10 billion. "I" statements are key. In a weird way, making it about you, generally makes others more comfortable. Unless they're crazy. There's no cure for crazy.

 

[WHOA tiger]

Its always such a sticky situation, especially when it with your stunt group. You're together almost all of practice, and when things don't hit, it only escalates things. I agree with the "I" statements, because instead of turning the situation on them and playing the blame game, you are showing YOUR genuine concern.

I like to think of a hamburger when talking things out or trying to fix things (maybe I am just always hungry?) On a hamburger you have a bun and the meat. Start out your talk with saying something positive(the bun), so the entire conversation isn't shot from the beginning. Just something like, "I really like stunting with you guys, I think we have great chemistry." Then, get to the "meat" of the problem and let your group know what is really bothering you. Don't make into an argument or start yelling. After you have said what you need to say, end with another positive (the bun on top). A rule of thumb is you never want to leave a conversation without everyone smiling. It will leave a lasting impression and everyone leaves happy!

I'd suggest doing this after practice, then everyone can go home and let it all sink in. Hope this helps! I know how difficult it can be having conflict within a stunt group.:cheering:

 

[Nothanks]

This. x10 billion. "I" statements are key. In a weird way, making it about you, generally makes others more comfortable. Unless they're crazy. There's no cure for crazy.

until the person you're arguing with says "you always turn it around so you're the victim!"

#imbitteraboutmyrelationshipending :rolleyes:

 

[kristenthegreat]

Its always such a sticky situation, especially when it with your stunt group. You're together almost all of practice, and when things don't hit, it only escalates things. I agree with the "I" statements, because instead of turning the situation on them and playing the blame game, you are showing YOUR genuine concern.

I like to think of a hamburger when talking things out or trying to fix things (maybe I am just always hungry?) On a hamburger you have a bun and the meat. Start out your talk with saying something positive(the bun), so the entire conversation isn't shot from the beginning. Just something like, "I really like stunting with you guys, I think we have great chemistry." Then, get to the "meat" of the problem and let your group know what is really bothering you. Don't make into an argument or start yelling. After you have said what you need to say, end with another positive (the bun on top). A rule of thumb is you never want to leave a conversation without everyone smiling. It will leave a lasting impression and everyone leaves happy!

I'd suggest doing this after practice, then everyone can go home and let it all sink in. Hope this helps! I know how difficult it can be having conflict within a stunt group.:cheering:

Where. Have. You. Been.

 

[WHOA tiger]

;)

 

[cheer9497]

There's no cure for crazy.

One of my favorite sayings!