All-Star The Appropriate Way To Move Gyms.

[dawgshow]

No matter how you leave, especially if it's with a sour taste in your mouth, do not post emails between you and old gym owners all over Facebook. It really makes you look bad even though we know your feelings are hurt.

 

[MNCheerMom]

You just can't always leave on good terms no matter how politically correct you try to be.

I respectfully disagree with this statement. Leaving a gym on good terms and remaining on good terms can be done - everyone's situation is unique.

 

[XtremeWpg]

We had a situation here a few years back where a team asked an athlete to leave for whatever reasons they had, then proceed to email all the other IO6 teams in the city 'warning' them about an athlete. This email contained everything from emails the athlete had sent, to rumours, to straight up accusations of theft.

This athlete came to my team, because I decided to put little stock into what everyone else said. We didn't have an issue with the athlete on our team at all.

Sometimes old gyms can't let sleeping dogs lie it seems!

 

[xoxbeastbackspotxox]

Be classy on social networking websites. We had a girl switch gyms and on Facebook she was being incredibly cocky and ridiculous. She was trying to set us off but the only person she made look bad was herself

 

[lovecheering]

I respectfully disagree with this statement. Leaving a gym on good terms and remaining on good terms can be done - everyone's situation is unique.

I didn't say you can't EVER leave a gym on good terms. I said you can't always!

 

[mommadonna]

We had a situation here a few years back where a team asked an athlete to leave for whatever reasons they had, then proceed to email all the other IO6 teams in the city 'warning' them about an athlete. This email contained everything from emails the athlete had sent, to rumours, to straight up accusations of theft.

This athlete came to my team, because I decided to put little stock into what everyone else said. We didn't have an issue with the athlete on our team at all.

Sometimes old gyms can't let sleeping dogs lie it seems!

That is so sad. I can't believe a gym...a serious business run by grown ups...would participate in this kind of nonsense. Unreal. I'm glad you gave the athlete a chance. It wouldn't have been fair if leaving a gym ended up causing him/her to have to leave a sport that he/she loves. Everyone deserves a chance to prove themselves.

 

[Fameous MOM]

I have seen TOO many nasty transitions when a parent decides they need to move to a new gym. No matter how upset you are about what GYM X did to your child, their IS a graceful way to leave the gym.
I am just going to list some advice for those parents that are in this situation so that they transition gyms as smoothly as possible.

-NEVER quit in the middle of the season. You committed to a team for a FULL year and no matter how bad you hate where your at, Suck it up and finish out the season. Quitting mid season per-conditions your child to think its OK to not finish what they started.
-If your child is quitting, and they are at the appropriate age. The athlete should tell the coach and the team themselves. If you drive yourself to practice, but you have to have your parent break the news to your coach about quitting, not only is that disrespectful to your team and coach, its being a coward.
-Never EVER leave a gym with them feeling bitter towards you. You NEVER know what your going to do in the future and you might want to come back to that gym at some point.
-Never cause a scene in front of other parents or try to solicit their child to leave with you. You will only be making your self look like a fool.
-Never discuss quitting to another parent or athlete if you are even considering switching gyms. Those other parents you complain too, 99% of the time, are telling the gym owner everything you are saying and its going to make you and your child end up being kicked to the curve.
-After moving gyms, talking trash about your old gym doesn't make you look cool, it just qualified you as the psycho cheer parent at your new gym.
-When telling a coach you are moving gyms, have a calm conversation about why you are making that decision. Try not to be to harsh to the coach about what THEY did wrong, but let them know you are doing what you think is best and you feel like the gym is not the best fit for your child. Believe it or not, quitting convos with coaches can actually be a calm and mature. It all depends on your tone of voice, word choice and being truthful. Blaming everything on the coach will never end up well.


Please continue to add any other advise... we all know we have a BUNCH of parents/athletes in the middle of this situation right now.

Wish I could shimmy a million times!!! I would never let my kid quit midseason because you are ultimately hurting the team.