Bullying

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  1. CoachJulie

    CoachJulie They call me Susie

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    Things have changed some since I was in school. I always had muscular arms and didn't cheer in high school. I did "real sports" - volleyball and track. I was called a "d_ke" by others because I was athletic and never once wore a sleeveless/very short sleeved top to school. I was made to feel ashamed of my fit body. Today, the "Nike" woman is celebrated, but then...not so much. A lot of things have changed for the better. Some not so much, even got worse with social networking and texting. I do know the face of bullying has changed and it's being pointed out more often, changing perceptions and habits for the better! Let's keep talking!!!
     
  2. ALittleBitTwisted

    ALittleBitTwisted Most Positive :)

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    I had a similar experience to yours back in my earlier days in high school/middle school...I actually arm wrestled a guy who wouldn't stop talking about my biceps and I won! :D I don't think I could ever forget it. He never talked down on cheerleading again and ironically were pretty close friends today! Times have definitely changed like you said, especially the cyber bullying is a real big issue because these really hurtful things I'm sure (I've never bullied before) are much easier to say via technology versus face to face. The best thing we can do is try to catch it early and stop it when we see it without creating more conflict.
     
  3. XoxLibertyallstarsxox

    XoxLibertyallstarsxox They call me Susie

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    ugh how horrible. If any coach at my gym saw or heard that the girl giving your daughter a hard time would be running the stairs
     
  4. XoxLibertyallstarsxox

    XoxLibertyallstarsxox They call me Susie

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    People love trying to tell me oh you'll never be able to do a back handspring or be on a senior level five team or your motions are horrible or you are the worst dancer on our team. I tell myself, people think I can't do certain things but they need to shut up and watch because I will prove my haters wrong
     
  5. as1angelino

    as1angelino Last Pass... on International Open 1

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    Ive been a male cheerleader now for 4 years and i get bullied constantly it doesnt bother me though, to me it just means that your insecure and you have problems when i first started cheering it was a secret for 2 years and no one knew,but i eventually didnt want to keep it a secret, i was proud of what i did, and i cant begin to tell you how many times i had to tumble in school to prove myself, plus its fun to show off haha :), but its sad because many people think that all guys that cheer are gay, and i have nothing against gay people, i give them alot of respect, recently i have been getting comments from my teacher! and its so annoying he knows im not gay and that i have a girlfriend but still bugs me about it, and embarsses me in front of my class, i stopped talking in that class and i think he got the message, whatever i guess you cant change some people. Point is this goes out to all the male cheerleaders gay or straight, dont hold back, dont keep secrets and most importantly dont be afraid to be you and be proud of what you do! I will and i know others will as well to represent allstar cheerleading to its best abilities.
     
  6. gofriars610

    gofriars610 Moderator Staff Member National Champion

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    That story made me smile. I both cheered and played hockey in high school too! My hockey teammates gave me a much harder time about it than my cheer teammates.
     
  7. ALittleBitTwisted

    ALittleBitTwisted Most Positive :)

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    That's awesome that you did both in high school-especially in high school where I'm sure it was difficult when everyone still very immature and says things without thinking. I love how the two sports don't really have anything in common, but I am sure there's a reason you and my teammate Jacob love 'em both!
     
  8. CoachJulie

    CoachJulie They call me Susie

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  9. xoxbeastbackspotxox

    xoxbeastbackspotxox I make my own voiceovers

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    I was bullied constantly before joining cheerleading. People called me fat, they called me ugly they told me I was stupid or retarded because I have a learning difficulty. I would come home crying and think I am the fattest ugliest and stupidest person in the world and I wanted to die. Then I found cheerleading which pretty much saved my life.
     
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    Katybugmom They call me Susie

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    If you enjoy reading- I suggest 19 minutes- I haven't finished but it opened my eyes up to how big of a problem bullying can be.
     
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    What if a team member is bullying another child on team? What do you do if you can't get your child to be assertive enough to stand up to the bully? My daughter (age 10) just gets real quiet, withdrawn, tries to ignore it, but after a while it starts to really get to her. The bullying seems to start up whenever she gets jealous about something. This girl (only 11) has also bullied other team members. She seems to stop & leave them alone when they stand up to her. Unfortunately, my daughter won't do this. She never bullies when the coaches can hear or see it.
     
  12. CoachJulie

    CoachJulie They call me Susie

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    Last season a gym near us had a problem with their kids making mean posters about our program and hanging them up at school. I think they might consider it a rivalry because they do teach their kids to hate us (since many of their newer customers only stay a year and then join my program it's been confirmed to me on numerous occasions). I don't consider that a rivalry though. They're just rude.

    I know rivalries are sometimes friendly and sometimes intense but the good ones are never ugly. And being the snobby, bully, team is so 10 years ago.
     
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    Ive never been physically bullied, but, ive got made fun of when i was younger for being a cheerleader, and being the only BLACK girl on my team. Ive been competiting since I was 10, now 23, but ill never forget how i felt when I got made fun of for doing something that i love.
     
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