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*woe
But, for real, "Whoa" is that lady too...
LMAO...I had it that way and it just looked so wrong. So I changed it. And I'm a spelling nazi too...I'm so ashamed...:oops:
But she IS both...
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*woe
But, for real, "Whoa" is that lady too...
You'd be surprised how "anonymous" this place can be. Are you banking on her being too poor to afford the Internet? Or that other folks who may have had this very same conversation with her, might not join if not already be a member here?because this is an anonymous forum. no one knows who i am, who she is, what gym our kids cheer at, what team our kids are on, what state i live in, etc. i think it is obvious that if i discussed this in the gym it would probably end up spreading like wildfire with people's different opinions and ultimately hurting the team once it trickled down to the kids.
i also think that by posting this on here, asking if anyone else has ever encountered this before, has enlightened me that there may be another side of this. such as -there is a possibility that someone else is paying for cheer. my first reaction was "wow, what the hell, they are on public asssitance and paying $250 a month for cheer. so my tax dollars are paying for her cp to cheer???".
crap, i have to go and get my kid a pair of uggs now?
@Num1Stunta - you KNOW I love you. But first off, no, I'm not Republican. Second, even if I was ... it's a little hypocritical to say "SMH...probably republican...this isn't 8th grade..." and then say "I don't know I guess I'm just an accepting person." Not accepting of the republicans on the welfare rant though. I also have friends that run the same gamut as yours... but if you're saying you don't care what someone does with their personal life, shouldn't that extend to their politics?
I have read every respond and have really thought about this topic,so I think I am ready to respond!
Ok, here is my 2 cents.
I've always told my daughter how others spend their money is none of our business. If I want to spend my money on cheer, I can rightful do it, just like you can spend yours on the new iPhone. The only time I would-be involve in how someone else is spending their money,is when they come to me for a handout. Every month, the government takes money out of our paychecks to help people who have fallen on hard times, but she hasn't fallen on hard times, she is abusing the system. She is looking for a pat on the back for "sacrificing" so much for her cp, when in all actually, she isn't sacrificing anything. She is allowing others to pay her bills, so she can pay for cheer and it seems like she has no problems with it. And as much as I love watching my cp cheer, I much prefer making sure we have a roof over our head and food in our bellies. Personally, I would avoid her. Her values aren't the type of vaules I am teaching my cp. I would much rather talk to the person who is giving up getting their hair done every month, to give their child, something they never had, then a person abusing the system...
so at practice this week a new mom and i are chatting and she is complaining how expensive cheer is. then proceeds to tell me over the 2 hour practice that she has other kids, lives in a room at a friends house, isn't working and is on food stamps and welfare. am i wrong to wonder what the heck she is thinking dishing out all this $ for cheer meanwhile she is on food stamps and welfare??? has anyone else encountered this at their gym? it doesn't seem like it's a "she fell on hard times recently" thing. but even if she did, should she really be letting her daughter do a sport that costs $250 a month???
I just hate judging people without knowing their situation. She hasn't fallen on hard times??? She is living in a borrowed room with her kids. In my book, that sounds rough. And perhaps the $250 she has leftover (which isn't enough for a place of their own) provides some sort of normalcy that is much needed for her daughter for whatever reason. We don't know what this family is going through, or what stuff brought her to this point. Why must we assume she is abusing the system? I am not saying she isn't, I would just prefer to think the best of people without knowing differently.
Perhaps she got divorced (or Dad died), and her daughter was slipping into a depression and she worried about her becoming suicidal or turning to drugs. So friends offered to let them stay in their room just so that she could use the small amount they have left to give the girl that normalcy for her confidence. A stretch? Perhaps. But that's the point. We don't know.
Isn't everything just relative?
Could an argument be made that you (meaning, MOST of us) should be putting more money aside for retirement rather than "wasting" so much money on something silly like cheer? Won't MY tax dollars be paying for YOU down the road because you are ill prepared to live comfortably when you are older. I'm only looking at your status: "private cheer lessons + ipad 2=broke! My cp better take care of us when we're old!"
That being said, I spend way too much for cheer, and have almost nothing saved for retirment, so maybe someone else can pay for both of us 40 years from now. I may very well look back and wonder what that extra $300 a month could have done in a mutual fund.
Not getting personal, I promise you. I just think we need to support each other more. Glass houses, you know?
I saw this thread on my mobile when I was on vacation, but wanted to wait until I was back home to craft a response.
When I was a kid, there was a time when my family qualified for government assistance. Yet during that time I continued to play competitive travel soccer, in part because of the generosity of my club, in part because my parents scrimped and saved what little extra money they had to keep me in the program.
If you've never been poor, you don't understand. I've rarely met someone who likes being on welfare or getting food stamps. But if I were to listen to some of the people on this thread, I shouldn't have been playing, and it was irresponsible of my parents to spend that extra money on soccer. Maybe there were people who thought that back when I was playing, but my parents did a good job of insulating me from it.
You know what? Soccer was the one thing that kept me on the straight and narrow, when I could've easily fallen in with a bad crowd. (easy to do in my neighborhood) It was a big part of the reason I went to college. And because I have a college degree and a good job, I'm able to provide for my kids in a way that my parents struggled to.
I will never say, in a million years, that spending money to put your child in a beneficial youth sport or activity is a bad thing. There are far worse things to be spending money on.
because this is an anonymous forum. no one knows who i am, who she is, what gym our kids cheer at, what team our kids are on, what state i live in, etc. i think it is obvious that if i discussed this in the gym it would probably end up spreading like wildfire with people's different opinions and ultimately hurting the team once it trickled down to the kids.
i also think that by posting this on here, asking if anyone else has ever encountered this before, has enlightened me that there may be another side of this. such as -there is a possibility that someone else is paying for cheer. my first reaction was "wow, what the hell, they are on public asssitance and paying $250 a month for cheer. so my tax dollars are paying for her cp to cheer???".
People put 2 and 2 together pretty quickly so it may be hard to stay anonymous. Usually if I want to vent I pick someone not in cheer, like my sister-in-law in another state with 2 boys. Just saying.