All-Star Sex Offender Arrested At Cheer Comp

[oncecoolcoachnowmom]

I am not supporting this man's behavior, nor am I doubting the legitimacy of the case, but I wonder what the rest of the story is.

What do you mean?

 

[MyGirlCheers]

The article I read stated the victim was under 14 and he contacted her on social media even though he was aware of her age. He plead guilty to a Class Y felony which is the most serious in Arkansas. I'm not sure there's any "rest of the story" we need.

 

[SharkDad]

There is a bottom line in all this:

There should be NO RELATIONSHIP with a coach and an athlete outside of training in the gym.

Sure they get close because of all the long hours and hard work put in, but the reputable gyms have rules for coaches to keep all of that interaction in the gym and supervised. It protects both the gyms and the coaches. Sadly this story is repeated all over the country and starts with the "innocent" communication on social media and "don't tell your parents" stuff.

 

[Beans100]

What do you mean?

I mean that there is always a back story. Something led this man to this underage girl and something made him think that doing this was okay or that he wouldn't get caught. I also wonder how this case came to light. Who reported it- the girl, her parents, one of her friends, or did he brag about it and one of his friends turned him in?

It looks like @MyGirlCheers answered some of it though.

 

[AngelsMum24]

I mean that there is always a back story. Something led this man to this underage girl and something made him think that doing this was okay or that he wouldn't get caught. I also wonder how this case came to light. Who reported it- the girl, her parents, one of her friends, or did he brag about it and one of his friends turned him in?

It looks like @MyGirlCheers answered some of it though.

If you read the article or google, he has had other charges in other states.

 

[notimeforthat]

I mean that there is always a back story. Something led this man to this underage girl and something made him think that doing this was okay or that he wouldn't get caught. I also wonder how this case came to light. Who reported it- the girl, her parents, one of her friends, or did he brag about it and one of his friends turned him in?

It looks like @MyGirlCheers answered some of it though.

He contacted my Cp at the same age... 14. He had never met her, and was using his notoriety to start up a conversation. He was hunting.... Another reason why you need to monitor your childs social media. I'm sure he has hurt others with the same bait in the past after hearing this.

 

[Beans100]

If you read the article or google, he has had other charges in other states.

Must've have missed that part. Oops.

He contacted my Cp at the same age... 14. He had never met her, and was using his notoriety to start up a conversation. He was hunting.... Another reason why you need to monitor your childs social media. I'm sure he has hurt others with the same bait in the past after hearing this.

Creepy! Good for you for stepping in.

Now I wonder if other people will come forward.

 

[oncecoolcoachnowmom]

There is a bottom line in all this:

There should be NO RELATIONSHIP with a coach and an athlete outside of training in the gym.

Sure they get close because of all the long hours and hard work put in, but the reputable gyms have rules for coaches to keep all of that interaction in the gym and supervised. It protects both the gyms and the coaches. Sadly this story is repeated all over the country and starts with the "innocent" communication on social media and "don't tell your parents" stuff.

Yes.

Your kids don't need to be:

*Spending the night at Billy Bob's house.

*Staying after open gym when there are no more kids.

*Taking privates with Billy Bob during a time when there are no other kids.

*Texting Billy Bob about non-cheer stuff. Getting DMs from Billy Bob. etc.

*Getting so close to Billy Bob that you let him do things like pick Suzy up from school, take her to the mall, etc.

As a school coach, I see so much (example) "Late night Polar Pop run with Billy Bob Coach or Chelsea Coach" on social media and I wonder if the parents know that coaches aren't supposed to be riding kids around at 11:30 to get polar pops.

I've had parents who live in or near my development start to ask if their child can come over and babysit my kid or go get nails done with me for cheer pictures.

I say no, not because I'm mean but because that's not the relationship I want with girls who cheer for me.

It's not only inappropriate for me as a coach, but the last thing I need as a school employee is for people to perceive things inappropriately.

 

[ErinS]

The reason why so many people don't come forward about rape and sexual assault is because of people thinking there needs to be a "reason". And explanation for why it happened. Some to blame...other than the fact that the predator is simply a predator.


To me, asking for a backstory is akin to saying "that 14 yr old tramp lead him on" or "how did that 14 yr old hussy seduce him"

I'm sure that's not what you're "saying" but it's essentially what you're asking


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[StephlCurry]

The reason why so many people don't come forward about rape and sexual assault is because of people thinking there needs to be a "reason". And explanation for why it happened. Some to blame...other than the fact that the predator is simply a predator.


To me, asking for a backstory is akin to saying "that 14 yr old tramp lead him on" or "how did that 14 yr old hussy seduce him"

I'm sure that's not what you're "saying" but it's essentially what you're asking


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I wish that I could shimmy this a billion times. Seriously makes me irate when anyone alludes to a "back story".

 

[Tator tots]

This is from 2011 in Texas at 21 years old?
The Sachse News (Sachse, Tex.), Vol. 7, No. 15, Ed. 1 Thursday, May 5, 2011, Sequence: 4 | The Portal to Texas History
21-Year-Old Arrested For Soliciting Minor | Law Offices of Jed Silverman

 

[quietmom]

The reason why so many people don't come forward about rape and sexual assault is because of people thinking there needs to be a "reason". And explanation for why it happened. Some to blame...other than the fact that the predator is simply a predator.


To me, asking for a backstory is akin to saying "that 14 yr old tramp lead him on" or "how did that 14 yr old hussy seduce him"

I'm sure that's not what you're "saying" but it's essentially what you're asking


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Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you.

 

[oncecoolcoachnowmom]

Also, I'm sorry if you've ever let your kid take these kinds of pics but:

Billy Bob shouldn't be allowed to be all up on your kid in your presence in open gym or practice pics etc. holding her on his hip, giving her kisses/hugs and taking pics with captions like "Ugh my little fierceling baby is so beautiful."

I see it rather often and I'm surprised parents don't have more boundaries with their kids.

None of my son's coaches are okay to pick up and hug all over my kid and call him a "hot stud."

Coaches need to know their boundaries.

 

[luv2cheer92]

This is from 2011 in Texas at 21 years old?
The Sachse News (Sachse, Tex.), Vol. 7, No. 15, Ed. 1 Thursday, May 5, 2011, Sequence: 4 | The Portal to Texas History
21-Year-Old Arrested For Soliciting Minor | Law Offices of Jed Silverman

I thought I had remembered there being something on him around the time he was on CA Wildcats. I wasn't sure when or if anything had ever come of it though.

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[Beans100]

The reason why so many people don't come forward about rape and sexual assault is because of people thinking there needs to be a "reason". And explanation for why it happened. Some to blame...other than the fact that the predator is simply a predator.


To me, asking for a backstory is akin to saying "that 14 yr old tramp lead him on" or "how did that 14 yr old hussy seduce him"

I'm sure that's not what you're "saying" but it's essentially what you're asking


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I wish that I could shimmy this a billion times. Seriously makes me irate when anyone alludes to a "back story".

Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you.

Sorry, that's not what I was alluding to.

I'll clarify my question with this- I was repeatedly sexually abused starting at around the age of 4. I had a neighbor who didn't know how to keep his parts to himself and had no problem telling me where to stick my hands. We moved when I was 10, so the abuse ended without anyone knowing a thing.

By back story, I mean, what motivates people to do this. Perhaps I am just curious because I hope it would bring me some answers in regards to my own history. Or maybe I just have a screwed up mind.

I didn't mean that it was the girl's fault. I was wondering what made him make this decision.