Like it or not, judges provide legal protection to the school and the coaches. It's not just the administration we have to worry about. Susie's mom can and often will sue or threaten to sue because she thinks Susie was targeted or discriminated against. It's easier for the administration to stand up to Susie's mom a prevent a lawsuit with unbiased, objective scoring. They can show her a concrete numerical guide to WHY her child didn't make the team. Believe me, it makes a LOT of difference when you are fighting that fight. Had we not had them this year, I would be stuck with 2 girls who would have embarrassed themselves and the team all year because they just couldn't keep up. Because we had outside judges give an objective score, we were able to have our results stand.
I would argue that cutting someone based on the idea the they don't "jive with your philosophy" is just as shady as anything you are accusing others of. You make cuts based on skill, period. No returning kid who was that detrimental to the team should ever make it back to try out again. A coach who is willing to stand up for their program will have removed them from the squad. You really cannot tell that about new kids in a few tryout sessions. You certainly cannot go off what a previous coach say either. Making that call and cutting a kid is the definition of shady. Those kids whoa re skilled but have a toxic attitude should quickly accumulate enough demerits to get kicked off.
It sounds like its a power thing with you, no one else controls anything about MY team. Sometimes its a good thing to let that go a little bit and take a step back. Having outside judges doesn't limit your ability to be in control. YOU set the tryout criteria, the judging criteria, and the tryout requirements. Do that correctly, and you will get the kids you need for a successful team.
It is absolutely a power thing. I am quick to give my girls the credit when we succeed, but I take the full blame when we fail. If I'm going to take responsibilities for failures, I'm going to control all of the controllables to ensure our success. We've had two principals and two AD's in my five years here. Principal one fired previous coach because of the daily cheer drama phone calls. I was almost three full seasons in before principal two took the only cheer drama phone call under my watch. After asking me for the low down, he said, "with your track record, I can assure you this will be a very short phone call." That was me, a paraprofessional, versus a parent who thought her status as a full time school employee was going to carry some weight. AD number one found out all the things I was doing differently over time, and because of the lack of problems we were having began sharing it at the AD meetings. Within a year, another coach in our school district was told she HAD to change her ways, and when she bucked against the changes was fired. Another coach who isn't in our district was told the same, did so, and their drama all but went away. AD number two has verbalized to me that he wishes half the sport coaches in the school ran their programs the way I do.
I can tell in five minutes if a kid is coachable. Case in point: Had a kid with borderline skills this year who asked if she could try being a flyer at tryouts. I told her point blank, "You have no experience, I did not graduate a single flyer from last year's team, and I've got 2 excellent incoming freshmen flyers that I'm not even sure what I'm going to do with yet. I will let you try, but you will be better off basing." I then put her in groups as a base, and let her attempt flying. She was dangerous in either position, but really a danger to others as a top. I told her that flying wasn't going to work out for her every day, yet every day she was trying to put a group together when I would give them some random stunting time that would allow her to be a top. That kid does not have a team-first mentality. She was after one spot, not any spot. Peace and chicken grease.
As to taking a kid with skills who has a horrible attitude. Did that this year too. I couldn't justify cutting her skill set, but she is well aware of the fact that if she doesn't open up her mind to being a back as opposed to a base, that she's not going to get near a comp floor.
I purposefully put kids in positions I know they don't want and/or aren't comfortable with just to see their body language response. Kids will say anything, but their bodies tell the real truth. The non-competitor will acquiesce and do what's asked, with about half effort. The competitor that is going to be successful, will do what's asked, ask for correction, and with full effort try again. When girl who doesn't want to main tries a prep with my smallest, most experienced top, and it barely gets to eye level, and then my 90-pound top takes the same 85-pound top and main bases her in a full up, I have witnessed the difference between one who just relents and does it, and one who competes and goes after it.
Coachability and attitude are two of the easiest things to see in a tryout week. They get missed completely by judges who show up for the last day when everyone is all "purtied" up and finally putting on their best show.
Lastly, if you think anything on the planet is going to save you from litigation when someone chooses to sue you, you are sorely mistaken. I live my life documenting and defending against potential lawsuits every minute of every day. It doesn't matter what the record looks like, anyone with a bankroll big enough can contact the law offices of Douchebag and Scheister and take steps towards litigation.
By your own admission, you're just starting out in your coaching career. Don't believe all the stuff people tell you about how things "have" to be. Most of them are just regurgitating what they were told, and they've never tried anything different.