North Carolina Has A New All Star Team And Is Having Auditions Soon !

[cupieqt]

This is not directly at you just using it as a jumping off point.

Having pulled away from the boards and the sport quite a bit I can tell you that looking back I most certainly have been there making those comments. I used to post all the time and had friends on the board that would defend me no matter what I said - right or wrong! We'd usually pm, text, call, meet at comps, or go to our private forums to talk about other posters that we thought were crazy. We would then come back to the boards with all our inside jokes and feel like we knew so much more than everyone else. Looking back it was pretty childish and far from welcoming to the people that came here to truly learn.

Yes there are some posters here that have no clue what they are doing but they really just need a kind hand to guide them. If they don't want your advice then move on. No need to be nasty. As a reformed former cheer mom now soccer mom, I regret the times I felt superior and made my own snarky comments in years past.

Just my two cents.

Since you used my post as a jumping off point I guess I will do the same.

I joined FierceBoard to discuss cheer and find some like-minded folks who could share in my joys and pains. This has been the perfect community for just that. Yep, we like to poke fun and make jokes and be silly on occasion. But with some newbies--just some--the gentle and kind approach just doesn't work. So then we get silly.

But this is now offensive? Is it bullying? I can deal with changes in the culture. No biggie. I just didn't realize this was no longer acceptable.

 

[CharlotteASMom]

Since you used my post as a jumping off point I guess I will do the same.

I joined FierceBoard to discuss cheer and find some like-minded folks who could share in my joys and pains. This has been the perfect community for just that. Yep, we like to poke fun and make jokes and be silly on occasion. But with some newbies--just some--the gentle and kind approach just doesn't work. So then we get silly.

But this is now offensive? Is it bullying? I can deal with changes in the culture. No biggie. I just didn't realize this was no longer acceptable.

I didn't write or even imply anyone here is a bully. I just think we can use a kinder approach based on the mistakes I found that I made in the past. If someone feels my experience applies to them in anyway then maybe take the words of advice; otherwise continue on.

 

[Fierce_Elite]

You know what , cheer auditions are just cancelled . no disrespect , but you guys have no faith in what could possibly . You guys so rude it's crazy . No ones grammar is 100% no need to make fun of me about it . I am ok mobile which makes it worse . Asking questions is fine , but don't be a smart alloc about it . All I did was try and let others know about a new cheer opportunity , than I get attacked . You guys comment on my grammar , then attack me with uncalled for attitude . Then bring up topics that do no matter . So, there will be no gym this year , non of you except for one person who were interested contacted my phone for more information as stated. So it's over , you guys got what you wanted.

Yes, I do realize that this sounds childish but I'm just fed up with how quickly this turned into a fuse instead of simply following directions and having civil conversation .

Goodbye


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[Fierce_Elite]

This is not directly at you just using it as a jumping off point.

Having pulled away from the boards and the sport quite a bit I can tell you that looking back I most certainly have been there making those comments. I used to post all the time and had friends on the board that would defend me no matter what I said - right or wrong! We'd usually pm, text, call, meet at comps, or go to our private forums to talk about other posters that we thought were crazy. We would then come back to the boards with all our inside jokes and feel like we knew so much more than everyone else. Looking back it was pretty childish and far from welcoming to the people that came here to truly learn.

Yes there are some posters here that have no clue what they are doing but they really just need a kind hand to guide them. If they don't want your advice then move on. No need to be nasty. As a reformed former cheer mom now soccer mom, I regret the times I felt superior and made my own snarky comments in years past.

Just my two cents.

Thank you



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[Fierce_Elite]

@Fierce_Elite

Dumb question because my friend ran into this.

The place you are renting/using, do they have a full size practice floor?


"What, you don't even go here!"

It was a gymnastics practice faculty so yes completely safe. But that doesn't matter now


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[Fierce_Elite]

I'm sorry for those that were interested


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[cupieqt]

It was a gymnastics practice faculty so yes completely safe. But that doesn't matter now


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So you had a facility lined up and were poised to launch a new youth 5 team but then you decided to give up on your dream in less than 24 hours based on this thread?

 

[CharlotteASMom]

Thank you



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In all seriousness, I feel like you have a lot of work to do before moving forward with this and some pretty knowledgeable people are trying to give you good advice here. Just thought they could have been a little nicer. The best and most experienced coaches out there seek advice from others. Try to stay open and positive to suggestions. Good luck!

 

[Fierce_Elite]

In all seriousness, I feel like you have a lot of work to do before moving forward with this and some pretty knowledgeable people are trying to give you good advice here. Just thought they could have been a little nicer. The best and most experienced coaches out there seek advice from others. Try to stay open and positive to suggestions. Good luck!

I don't mind having advice I'm all for that ! It's just I don't like for my intelligence to be insulted and the people that had questions and concerns could have been nicer about their post .




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[Fierce_Elite]

I don't mind having advice I'm all for that ! It's just I don't like for my intelligence to be insulted and the people that had questions and concerns could have been nicer about their post .




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Thank you for understanding where I am coming from .


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[Fierce_Elite]

So you had a facility lined up and were poised to launch a new youth 5 team but then you decided to give up on your dream in less than 24 hours based on this thread?

I'm not giving up. I'm just going to start fresh next year. This board is huge in the cheer world and It really does has an impact on a lot of cheerleaders and parents . When people here out names at competitions I don't want them to remember us by, oh that coach start drama etc. I just want us to have a clean slate .


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[Fierce_Elite]

I'm not giving up. I'm just going to start fresh next year. This board is huge in the cheer world and It really does has an impact on a lot of cheerleaders and parents . When people here out names at competitions I don't want them to remember us by, oh that coach start drama etc. I just want us to have a clean slate .


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I think I'm just going to post a new thread sounding more professional and if people give me the same response , it can't happen like this. I don't like starting off on the wrong foot. That's already a bad look on my team



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[cheernerd5678]

I'm not giving up. I'm just going to start fresh next year. This board is huge in the cheer world and It really does has an impact on a lot of cheerleaders and parents . When people here out names at competitions I don't want them to remember us by, oh that coach start drama etc. I just want us to have a clean slate .


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Starting next year sounds like a much better plan. Teams for this year are already formed. You're going to want to start early for next year... Start getting your name out now to school cheerleaders, rec teams, etc so that people know you - if you just announce tryouts in May and nobody's heard of you it's going to be hard to get many girls. I'd recommend lurking for a while, this site has lots of knowledgeable coaches that you could learn a lot from.

Eta: You should probably chill and lurk for a little bit before getting a new account with your gym name and being more professional about your interactions on here. Read the CA Rumors thread, BlueCat does a great job of being a professional gym owner. If you just start a new thread right now people are going to respond similarly. Also - even if people are hating on your gym, remain professional. In the real world, people are going to talk about you, you have to learn to ignore it completely and just not address it - or find a professional way to address it, but I feel like ignoring it is usually the best option unless it's some crazy rumor flying about you.

 

[Cheer Dad]

It was a gymnastics practice faculty so yes completely safe. But that doesn't matter now


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Thank you for the answer


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[mecheermom]

Thank you for understanding where I am coming from .


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You thanked yourself.