I'm going to be honest.
As I read all of the different ways these things are being rolled out throughout this thread, I am curious how much of this is overreaction to misinterpretations of state "rules."
What I mean is: it seems multiple people have said they can't "talk" to kids until such and such month. What if you have them in class? Or what if they go to your church?
Some thoughts for you on the topic, because dealing with the state athletic association is new to some of you:
1. Athletic directors come in all different shapes and sizes. Some of them WANT to be an athletic director and they're great. Some of them WANT to be a principal, and AD is a good stepping stone for them. Some of them WERE a coach, and still want to be involved in athletics, but see being AD as a way to stay involved without having to be hands on with athletes. Never, ever just accept an answer from your athletic director as "the law." If you ask the AD, and they give you an answer that doesn't make good sense to you, or just seems to far fetched as to be unreal, or they stutter and cough when they give the answer, seek out an answer on your own. Don't just open rules and read them, seek out an interpretation from someone who really knows. There is someone at your athletic association headquarters who has the responsibility of overseeing cheerleading. Email them directly.
2. Realize that not all state rules may apply to cheer even if they apply to other sports. In Kentucky we have rules that apply differently to different sports within the same season. For example, football starts a week earlier in the summer than all other fall sports for no reason other than to allow the players a week to acclimate to the heat prior to the date when they can go full pads. I approached my AD, a good one, today with a question about transfers, and we found out the most abused bylaw in our state doesn't even apply to cheer.
3. There may be an advisory committee for cheerleading. If it's really a mess. Volunteer to be on the committee and attempt to illicit change. It may be slow-going, but it can be done. You can sometimes accomplish the same thing with a well-written email. After two consecutive years of receiving emails from me with evidence that the system of judging in our state needed to change, it changed. Offer an actual solution as opposed to just a complaint. When our system of judging changed, it didn't just randomly change, it changed to almost exactly what I had recommended.
It can be done.