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[shadow]

My CP has decided she has to reward herself. Everytime she gets a new skill, she will say something like, "we should stop at Starbucks since I landed my XXXX". :)

Its not a bribe if it is offered up after the skill has been accomplished. Its all in the timing. I too have given rewards for getting a skill. It is something to celebrate. Nothing better than picking them up and having them say guess what I did. (note: I said pick up, Not sit through practice)

 

[5-6-7-8]

Bribes may have a time and place. :) (Is it bad my husband bribed my DS with a Nintendo 3Ds if he stopped sucking his thumb? It worked like a charm though.)

I can't remember the details, but I know I did a small little bribe for CP for a tumbling skill. But to justify, I knew she could do it, she just needed a little push. ;) Maybe next time I'll use a "reward" instead of a bribe.

 

[Mamarazzi]

Its not a bribe if it is offered up after the skill has been accomplished. Its all in the timing. I too have given rewards for getting a skill. It is something to celebrate.

Agreed, but it does set a precedent. The expectation will remain that if cp works hard to gain a skill, the skill or the chance to level up or get last pass or point whatever is not reward enough.

I'm a firm believer that, though "things" are nice, the positive feelings from trying, failing, trying again, trying harder and working your booty off until you accomplish a goal impact a child long past the cheer years, when that iPod Touch will be antiquated.

 

[MomNBlue&Green]

13. I will not under any circumstances EVER wear my daughter's cheer bows, in public or in private (which includes posting pictures of myself wearing them on FB) ... EVER!

 

[CAmom]

13. Thou shalt not under any circumstance leave a fog print on a gym window from watching too intently. 13b. No pounding on windows to get Childs attention.

I literally just laughed out loud!!! (my dog thinks I'm weird now) Love this thread!:D

 

[CAmom]

So am I out of the club if I bribed my cp because of a mental block??? She had a full, took a bad fall, refused to throw it by herself for a YEAR!!! The coach HAD to stand there, even though he never touched her!!! Gotta admit, At next years level 5 tryouts, I sat at the end of the mat (small gym, allowed this) with a $100 bill stuck on my forehead. Told her it was hers if she would just throw the dang skill by herself!!! :oops:

 

[mom24girls]

Thou shalt not use sign language to yell at your child when they are out on the floor practicing, it's just as distracting to them as if you yelled it out loud.

 

[Babs]

So am I out of the club if I bribed my cp because of a mental block??? She had a full, took a bad fall, refused to throw it by herself for a YEAR!!! The coach HAD to stand there, even though he never touched her!!! Gotta admit, At next years level 5 tryouts, I sat at the end of the mat (small gym, allowed this) with a $100 bill stuck on my forehead. Told her it was hers if she would just throw the dang skill by herself!!! :oops:

Did it work???????????????

 

[CAmom]

Did it work???????????????

Ha!!! Yep! And everyone who had watched her struggle with it for a year , started cheering when she did it!!! The memory still makes me smile and that was two years ago. :)

 

[shadow]

So am I out of the club if I bribed my cp because of a mental block??? She had a full, took a bad fall, refused to throw it by herself for a YEAR!!! The coach HAD to stand there, even though he never touched her!!! Gotta admit, At next years level 5 tryouts, I sat at the end of the mat (small gym, allowed this) with a $100 bill stuck on my forehead. Told her it was hers if she would just throw the dang skill by herself!!! :oops:

Did she do it?

 

[cheerfor2]

Thou shalt not use sign language to yell at your child when they are out on the floor practicing, it's just as distracting to them as if you yelled it out loud.

I can still remember years ago being in the viewing room watching a parent, who was not happy with her child’s tumbling, write a few nasty words on a piece of paper, hold it up on the glass window and knock loudly to get her child’s attention.
I sat there thinking 1. How exactly is that going to help her child tumble better. 2. Does she really think she has magic powers that allow only her child to see and hear her??? 3. How long it was going to take the coach, who was staring daggers at her, to get through the gym into the parent room...she was pretty fast.
I would like to add not holding notes up on the viewing room window to the rules. Really not motivating.

 

[imrichhowboutu]

At work, if I perform well during the year, I get a bonus. At cheerleading, If I'm a great coach, parents buy us gifts at the end of the year because they love us.

If your daughter does amazing and gets something she has been struggling to achieve, by ALL means please reward her. Now I am not saying that it is right in every single case. Nor should you yell at them to try to make them do something. But if you need to help me reach my full potential with monetary rewards, then so be it.

 

[dawgshow]

I sat there thinking 1. How exactly is that going to help her child tumble better. 2. Does she really think she has magic powers that allow only her child to see and hear her??? 3. How long it was going to take the coach, who was staring daggers at her, to get through the gym into the parent room...she was pretty fast.
I would like to add not holding notes up on the viewing room window to the rules. Really not motivating.[/quote]

So I guess rating cards are out of the question, too? ;)

 

[shadow]

To me its all about rewarding hard work. Not saying "if you do xyz you will get something" but saying "because you did xyz you get something.
acknowledging success is what competition is all about.
However, sometimes people need a carrot to chase. Setting a goal and working for it is never a bad thing.
For $100 with a few cocktails I might even try a full.

 

[Hi! It's me!]

Thou shalt not take 2 months off at the beginning of the season (because we need a break) and then expect your cp to be front and center and fly.
Thou shalt not keep your child from going to practice because YOU don't think she is trying hard enough.

In case nobody guessed I have already seen both of these scenarios. Crazy people.