All-Star You Might Be A Crazy Cheer Mom If...... (confession Time)

[GreatWhite92]

Yeah, thats pretty typical in a lot of areas - to see girls being given messages like that. Just another reason why gender equality is uber important.

Well I didn't find the flow chart but I did find some awesome tips for spring break....since this is the regular board I'll refrain from posting it but it's pretty insulting...I wouldn't be surprised if there aren't some girls out there with some real messed up views about sex because of these talks.


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[Helen uk uni cheer]

Well I didn't find the flow chart but I did find some awesome tips for spring break....since this is the regular board I'll refrain from posting it but it's pretty insulting...I wouldn't be surprised if there aren't some girls out there with some real messed up views about sex because of these talks.


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Maybe start a thread in 18+ if you have access?

 

[KPep]

I am glad my sex education was well done. But it's a shame those classes don't exist anymore in schools here.

Sex for us was a choice, and the teachers told us a lot about it. We covered the std's in the sex ed and biology class (I remember what I ate for lunch after the particular day we actually saw pictures...). We learned how to put a condom on, we saw all the birth control methods, etc. I never felt lost in my sexuality because our schools were open-minded. You can get the pill prescribed to you without parental consent at the age of 14. It's a little early to me, but we all know many girls experiment sex around that age... better be safe than sorry.

 

[cheeryjust]

I'm so shocked at how different sex ed is on US compared to here in the UK

 

[oncecoolcoachnowmom]

I went to a private Baptist school for K-5.

We had sex ed every year (including BIRTH videos and the abstinence talk) starting in THIRD GRADE.

Yes, really.

My mom was horrified as she was not notified in advance that sex ed started in third grade (I started Kindergarten at 4 so I was a YOUNG third grader too.) She found out when I came home and announced/described where babies came from in detail over dinner. Awkward.

I didn't get a proper sex education course that included contraceptives until I went to public middle school.

 

[purplecheer]

I think that s e x education is important, because as a teenager I wouldn't want to be asking my mum these sorts of questions. We have a good relationship, I just think it would be really awkward. It's good to know that students know the contraceptive methods, because even if they did experiment then it would be safe. If you just tell them that they can't have sex, some people will do it anyway and then they will get pregnant because they didn't know what to do. Better safe than sorry I think.

 

[omgitssydthekid]

I took a human sexuality class my sophomore year at college and I was absolutely floored by how many people had never gotten a sex talk from their parents. I was one of two that had out of roughly forty students. I was given my first of many sex talks in fourth grade. I had learned where babies came from the year before that so I knew the basics. My mom was very open and created an environment where I could (and did) come to her with any questions I had. My first sex talk with my mom was not a full blown sex talk by any means, but it set up future talks and let me know that my mom was someone I could talk to about those kind of things, which is how it should be. I get that it's awkward and if I have kids I'll probably dread it but it's important and needs to be talked about on a parent/child level.


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[Beans100]

A friend of mine is currently in med school and the latest statistic is that the average age that kids are losing their virginity is 13. It's kind of scary to think about, and that's only the average. So there are kids younger than 13 who are having sex. Yikes.

I feel that sex education is important, but I wonder how young kids should be exposed to things like that. I think that with the current state of the media, internet access and lack of censorship, kids are exposed to things that they aren't ready for. The next generation is growing up a lot faster but they aren't maturing at the same rate. Kids want to be adults but they aren't acting as though they are ready for that type of responsibility.

 

[omgitssydthekid]

A friend of mine is currently in med school and the latest statistic is that the average age that kids are losing their virginity is 13. It's kind of scary to think about, and that's only the average. So there are kids younger than 13 who are having sex. Yikes.

I feel that sex education is important, but I wonder how young kids should be exposed to things like that. I think that with the current state of the media, internet access and lack of censorship, kids are exposed to things that they aren't ready for. The next generation is growing up a lot faster but they aren't maturing at the same rate. Kids want to be adults but they aren't acting as though they are ready for that type of responsibility.

Kids are supposed to know the difference between a boy and a girl before they go to kindergarten. If they don't hear it from their parents, they're going to hear it from their classmates. It's possible for girls to start their period in elementary school, and they need to know what it is and the purpose of it before it happens. I listened to an interesting episode of The American Life that talked a little bit about this (among other hard conversations about race/racism/death/suicide) and I genuinely think we don't give kids enough credit. The sex talk you give a 5 year old isn't the same talk you'd give a 16 year old, the sex talk should start early and you should be able to build on it based on the child's maturity and where they're at developmentally. I'm barely an adult and I don't have any children so that probably plays a part in shaping my views but I think this is something that's important.


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[Beans100]

Kids are supposed to know the difference between a boy and a girl before they go to kindergarten. If they don't hear it from their parents, they're going to hear it from their classmates. It's possible for girls to start their period in elementary school, and they need to know what it is and the purpose of it before it happens. I listened to an interesting episode of The American Life that talked a little bit about this (among other hard conversations about race/racism/death/suicide) and I genuinely think we don't give kids enough credit. The sex talk you give a 5 year old isn't the same talk you'd give a 16 year old, the sex talk should start early and you should be able to build on it based on the child's maturity and where they're at developmentally. I'm barely an adult and I don't have any children so that probably plays a part in shaping my views but I think this is something that's important.


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I definitely agree. Kids should know some things, but I'm finding that a lot of kids know too many things. ( i heard a kid tell a girl to suck his d***.) I think it's more of a problem with the media though.

 

[omgitssydthekid]

I definitely agree. Kids should know some things, but I'm finding that a lot of kids know too many things. ( i heard a kid tell a girl to suck his d***.) I think it's more of a problem with the media though.

Yeah that's definitely an issue, you're right about that for sure. Media always finds a way to make everything sexy.


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[dat.jpp]

I think that s e x education is important, because as a teenager I wouldn't want to be asking my mum these sorts of questions. We have a good relationship, I just think it would be really awkward. It's good to know that students know the contraceptive methods, because even if they did experiment then it would be safe. If you just tell them that they can't have sex, some people will do it anyway and then they will get pregnant because they didn't know what to do. Better safe than sorry I think.

same, I avoid asking my parents about sex XD

 

[SL&AM]

I went to a private Baptist school for K-5.

We had sex ed every year (including BIRTH videos and the abstinence talk) starting in THIRD GRADE.

Yes, really.

My mom was horrified as she was not notified in advance that sex ed started in third grade (I started Kindergarten at 4 so I was a YOUNG third grader too.) She found out when I came home and announced/described where babies came from in detail over dinner. Awkward.

I didn't get a proper sex education course that included contraceptives until I went to public middle school.

Third grade?! We didn't get the birth video until 7th grade; random fact, it was a Swedish couple. But it was built into a week long thing in science class and focused on the biology of what made girls and boys different. The video was just a byproduct. Unfortunately our normal teacher was out due to surgery so we had a perm sub who told us the days her children were conceived and how she got herpes. It was stellar!

 

[SL&AM]

I took a human sexuality class my sophomore year at college and I was absolutely floored by how many people had never gotten a sex talk from their parents. I was one of two that had out of roughly forty students. I was given my first of many sex talks in fourth grade. I had learned where babies came from the year before that so I knew the basics. My mom was very open and created an environment where I could (and did) come to her with any questions I had. My first sex talk with my mom was not a full blown sex talk by any means, but it set up future talks and let me know that my mom was someone I could talk to about those kind of things, which is how it should be. I get that it's awkward and if I have kids I'll probably dread it but it's important and needs to be talked about on a parent/child level.


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Your parents sound pretty responsible compared to mine. I had one talk, well two really, but the first talk came after puberty and it went like this, "You know you can get pregnant now, right?" "Yes." "Okay." The end. The second comment came when she claimed she waited until marriage which was absolutely a lie. That was it.

My girls are in Kindergarten and 1st grade and I started that type of stuff from birth just by using the correct terminology and each year I add a little more and a little more. We're nowhere near the full blown talk, but I hope to accomplish what your mom did versus mine. Mine was the shame-er---she grew up in a very Catholic household so it made sense---but she would rather slap you across your face and make you drink soap than she would talk about it.

same, I avoid asking my parents about sex XD

If you find that you can't talk to your parents find a responsible adult that you can go to. My sister is 12 years older than me so I found guidance from her, but since I don't think you have that turn to an aunt, guidance counselor, teacher...etc. Someone in your life will talk to you about it.

I definitely agree. Kids should know some things, but I'm finding that a lot of kids know too many things. ( i heard a kid tell a girl to suck his d***.) I think it's more of a problem with the media though.

I think a lot of kids don't really know what they know. I hear so many questionable things out of kids who really shouldn't even be experimenting with what they're saying, but if you ask them what they're saying they don't know the answer to your question. I think the media is one part of it, but kids with access to the web and YouTube is an even bigger issue!

 

[omgitssydthekid]

@SL&AM I felt very lucky and you sound like you're doing a great job with something hard! My family is very Catholic, but (I believe) my mom became agnostic after my parents divorced. My is very reasonable now that I'm 22 and technically an adult, but I when I was younger he definitely didn't facilitate that conversation and to this day I'm not sure if we've ever talked about sex in any context. My stepmom is also Catholic and we've had pretty good conversations as well, but those are also more recent developments.


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