YES times a million... To everything you've said. It's really discouraging to be in an industry that doesn't seem to care as much as I do. I told my fiance last night that at this point I would leave coaching if I felt like I could work in the industry to move it forward, because that impacts so many more people and it's needed. If it doesn't happen soon, it's not going to happen. Cheer was small enough that this wasn't needed before, but now that it has exploded, it has to happen. But, it's too big to make changes now. No matter what, people are mad. Well, that sucks for them, but you either get on board or get out.
I thought about this a lot last night (because I obviously have nothing to do). And let me throw it out there, much of this stuff has been discussed and some is trying to be implemented, but I think it all needs to fit together and happen together or nothing works. This is an all or nothing type of deal. I'm sure this is going to be long, so I apologize in advance.
First, athletes need registration cards with photos on them and a unique registration number. This is NOT that expensive, and it is not uncommon to have to do this in other sports. If it costs $5, that is a drop in the bucket. That is not going to be the make or break cost for kids to get involved in cheer. The parents go online, register their child, and someone verify the birthdate. Maybe I'm being optimistic, but I think parents are going to be more honest than coaches and owners. Most parents won't even think about inputing a birthdate and once it's done, it's done. The child gets a card, and they bring it to every competition. I could even seen it where the coaches have the cards on a keyring, sorted by team to bring instead of expecting the kids to keep up with them. When they register teams, they submit a roster with the child, registration number, and birthdate on it. A copy of this roster goes to someone working backstage and when you check in, they compare the cards to the roster (ensuring things match up and pictures are actual kids-not another kid using someone else's name and birthdate). This person signs off that they believe the roster and the kids match up, and boom-we have someone accountable for saying it's all a match. This makes it easy to track when the same kid is on 5 teams, and when birthdates don't match up. If they register once and simply renew, they can't change their birthdate. If they have the guts to register wrong in the first place, then it'll really suck when senior year comes and they've "aged" out and cannot cheer.
Second, there needs to be an ethics and discipline committee that deals with allegations. I know some people think it's ok for coaches to be on this, but I don't. It's just a personal thing. I am a nobody coach, but I can easily see there are many relationships in the industry that are beyond local gyms... I have coaching friends in other states, and I know about drama in other states. I don't believe that someone currently coaching can provide an unbiased opinion on disciplining teams. I don't think it's right. The people making decisions cannot have anything to gain from punishing one team and not another. I don't think these people should be out of touch with the industry, but I don't think they can be making money as a coach/owner and making decisions that impact another person's business (which could easily be their rival or friend). This committee needs to take all allegations and research them, and hand down decisions. Some allegations will be proven false, and that's fine-but at least there is somewhere to go and a proper channel to follow, no matter if you are a big gym or small gym. You have equal treatment.
Ok, those are my main points. I'll stop because I could easily write another five paragraphs or so, and I'm not that exciting. If you read that you deserve a cookie. :)