All-Star You Might Be A Crazy Cheer Mom If...... (confession Time)

[Eyes On The Prize]

I'm jealous of anyone who can donate anything out of their body---no part of me will ever be accepted.

You can always donate you're entire body after you die.

 

[SL&AM]

You can always donate you're entire body after you die.

I've actually thought about it; I was used as a science experience while alive, I may as well be one when I'm dead.

 

[Eyes On The Prize]

I've actually thought about it; I was used as a science experience while alive, I may as well be one when I'm dead.

You should definitely read "Stiff: The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers" by Mary Roach. I thought I wanted to donate my body to science when I died and now I definitely don't.

Unless I'm plasticized. I'd be down for that. But I'd want my body to be kept together.

 

[SL&AM]

You should definitely read "Stiff: The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers" by Mary Roach. I thought I wanted to donate my body to science when I died and now I definitely don't.

Unless I'm plasticized. I'd be down for that. But I'd want my body to be kept together.

I've read it. Honestly, for me, it'll boil down to what my family is comfortable with. I really don't care what they do to my body, but if my kids or husband care than I'd want to respect that. As is, I'm being cremated---I do not want to be buried whole.

 

[amy1k]

Oops. Pocket post. Carry on. *popcorn*

 

[amy1k]

^^^The above = why my (HS) team does not have a Team Mom. Make cookies, paint signs for their comps, whatever fun thing you want to do as a group, but no one is the official Team Mom. So no one runs anything around here as a parent. You are all equal.

Ex: A group of you can all get together and decide you want to buy balloons for their send-off (as long as you are including all cheerleaders and not just your child, and that you have run it by me), but you can't send an email say "I am team mom and I need you to ________."

That also means that no one is my representative. So, no one can say "I spoke with Coach and she said we need to _______ for the girls."

Every now and then, a new parent who is maybe the team mom of her kid's all star team or was previously the team mom at the middle school will come in and try to behave like a Team Mom and start emailing parents asking them to get things together for events that she wants to plan (Ex: One mom tried to plan a pool party on top of a pool party the coaching staff organized, because she "wanted a special pool party just to celebrate the rookies.") That gets shot down really quickly.

I know that several people on Fierceboard are probably WONDERFUL team moms/dads and they would NEVER think to try to play coach, boss other parents around, etc. However, I have always found that as soon as I place a label on the person who may plan some stuff for the girls or help me out a little, people get a little crazy and it goes to their heads.

Heck, the ROOM MOM at my kid's school seems to think that makes her the Beyonce of the elementary building, but that is another thread.

I'm not going to say much about this, but a mom asserting herself as team mom and then actually COACHING on the floor at several practices is one of the reasons my daughter chose allstar over high school. I just can't deal with that. If a high school coach can't manage her job without a parent, then maybe she's not the right person for the job. Parents need to not hover over their high school athletes. Ugh. And I apologize in advance if the parent reads this. :(

Back to my popcorn...

 

[NJ Coach]

You ARE a crazy cheer mom (or dad) if at any point during a conversation, email, text etc you have to point out that you are NOT one of those.

 

[dawgshow]

You ARE a crazy cheer mom (or dad) if at any point during a conversation, email, text etc you have to point out that you are NOT one of those.

I had a conversation with a coach recently that started with "I don't want to be one of THOSE moms...eh who am I kidding. I'm totally being one of THOSE moms right now" :)


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[oncecoolcoachnowmom]

I'm not going to say much about this, but a mom asserting herself as team mom and then actually COACHING on the floor at several practices is one of the reasons my daughter chose allstar over high school. I just can't deal with that. If a high school coach can't manage her job without a parent, then maybe she's not the right person for the job. Parents need to not hover over their high school athletes. Ugh. And I apologize in advance if the parent reads this. :(

Back to my popcorn...

Yikes.

Nope. Never ever.

The quickest way for a parent to rub me the wrong way is to try and tell me how to coach. Parents aren't even permitted in the gym area for practice, so there is no way they could ever try to "coach."

Something I HAVE dealt with (that I think is mostly a school cheer thing) is parents thinking/saying that they "have a lot of cheer experience" because (example) they cheered in HS.

So they'll start emails off with "back when I cheered..." not realizing that their 3 years of HS cheer experience circa 1974 doesn't give them a license to suggest formations or tell me who needs to be point flyer. I am no Elaine Pascale but I have enough experience to know what I'm doing. Please don't tell me how to run my team.

 

[Cheer Dad]

Yikes.

Nope. Never ever.

The quickest way for a parent to rub me the wrong way is to try and tell me how to coach. Parents aren't even permitted in the gym area for practice, so there is no way they could ever try to "coach."

Something I HAVE dealt with (that I think is mostly a school cheer thing) is parents thinking/saying that they "have a lot of cheer experience" because (example) they cheered in HS.

So they'll start emails off with "back when I cheered..." not realizing that their 3 years of HS cheer experience circa 1974 doesn't give them a license to suggest formations or tell me who needs to be point flyer. I am no Elaine Pascale but I have enough experience to know what I'm doing. Please don't tell me how to run my team.

Elaine from Seinfeld? I didn't know she had cheer experience.


**Maybe I should get my medication levels checked**

 

[cheerisloving]

Yikes.

Nope. Never ever.

The quickest way for a parent to rub me the wrong way is to try and tell me how to coach. Parents aren't even permitted in the gym area for practice, so there is no way they could ever try to "coach."

Something I HAVE dealt with (that I think is mostly a school cheer thing) is parents thinking/saying that they "have a lot of cheer experience" because (example) they cheered in HS.

So they'll start emails off with "back when I cheered..." not realizing that their 3 years of HS cheer experience circa 1974 doesn't give them a license to suggest formations or tell me who needs to be point flyer. I am no Elaine Pascale but I have enough experience to know what I'm doing. Please don't tell me how to run my team.

My HS coach actually only valued one parents opinion and it was my mother's-she was the only parent who had been involved with cheerleading as a spectator in all forms, who understood the sport. My mom would never ever suggest something but she could trust my mom to give a solid assessment of the competition, tell her how other teams looked ect. Granted my mom was a part of the school staff and my coach's daughter was friends with my own sibling.

We did have one crazy mom prior to our new coach being hired, that would say the most off the wall things, and actually was consigned by our coach. She would tell us what we did wrong, described elite stunts as "3d" and yelled at a team member who fell. I vividly remember getting in trouble when I didn't let her rude daughter get away with a smart remark. Mom heard it and coach who never did anything punished me.

Irony is that said daughter couldn't even do a forward roll and I was one of the best tumblers on the team. Mom knew my family. Years later I guess it was jealousy

 

[Doctorcheer]

Maybe I'm in the minority here but as a high school coach, I never have parents email or contact about cheer suggestions. If it did happen I'd shut that down fast.

 

[Twinklestars]

I texted a suggestion to the coach that the cheerleaders not wear sparkle spankies. She has a cp on the team and agreed with my statement that some areas do not need that attention drawn to them.

 

[oncecoolcoachnowmom]

I texted a suggestion to the coach that the cheerleaders not wear sparkle spankies. She has a cp on the team and agreed with my statement that some areas do not need that attention drawn to them.

Let me clarify, I don't mind suggestions of that sort.

Example of a parent suggestion that I did not mind: I had a parent suggest a location for the team banquet that was in a more centralized location for the parents driving in from the other side of the district. She emailed me and said "Hey I have a venue suggestion for the team banquet that you may not have thought of. The one you're proposing is a little far away mileage-wise." I hadn't actually booked the location I was considering and I ended up going with the place she suggested. That was fine.

Or I had a parent suggest a location for team photos that I hadn't thought of. Cool.

Parent suggestion that I am not considering: A parent's daughter was in the back row of our game day cheer lines/ formations (for whatever reason, she started not being sharp/yelling and was off on motions enough for me to notice.) She emailed to tell me that in game day formations, "when I cheered in HS, the juniors and seniors were always in the front. Can I suggest you do the same?" No.

 

[AScheer]

True story... when I was first hired at the school I coach at, a cheer mom sent me an email introducing herself with an attachment. The gist of the email was I'm so and so. My daughter has cheered 2 years, I'm the team mom and I help order items and plan things for the girls. Attached is an itemized list of everything we purchase and the vendor it's from (much of which was from her husbands company.) I let her know how it was going to be real quick. Needless to say we didn't see eye to eye on anything, and I practically threw a party when her daughter graduated from the program after that year.